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Confused

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by Lilah189, Feb 25, 2012.

  1. Lilah189

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    Hi

    I am 18 years old and I am so confused.
    I have noticed over the last few years that I am attracted to girls and that scares me.
    I have no experience with either girls or guys, I just don't no what to do.
    I am afraid to explore any sort of intamacy increase of the answer I get about my sexuality and also I don't know how my family would react, I am terrified that I will upset them.

    Please if somebody has any advice I really need some help.
     
  2. silverhalo

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    Hey welcome to EC, it can be a very scary time when you first start questioning your sexuality, but try not to start worrying too much about it, worrying only makes it harder. If you are attracted to girls then you can help that and its not your fault, I am sure that if this turns out to be the case your family will accept you.

    At the moment do you notice guys and girls or do you feel like it is more just girls that you notice?

    EC is an excellent place to find support and advice whilst questioning your sexuality, read some threads, make threads if you have any questions and talk to anyone you feel like, everyone is friendly here.
     
  3. Lilah189

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    Thank you for replying.

    I would say right now I notice girls more than guys.
    I really don't know what to do.
    I am scared of how certain members of my family will react towards me if they find out.

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    I feel like I am letting them down for some reason, even though I know i'm not and I know there's nothing wrong with how I feel. I'm just scared.
     
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    I think we have the same problem,
    try not to label yourself.
    Labeling yourself as such will just make the situation rougher
     
  5. hey.
    everyone has been scared at discovering who they are at some point i assume, if youre too scared now then wait until youre more comfortable within yourself, then start exploring if you want too.

    your parents wont find out unless you tell them.
    if you have a friend you can confide in then talk to them, it may help :slight_smile: