Hello, I am new here. (English is not my first language so excuse any errors) At birth I was assigned a male but in the last year or so I have been questioning if I am transgender or not. I find joy in wearing female clothes, I want to have longer hair and prefer to use she / her pronouns and I want to have more feminine features. But at the same time I feel comfortable with my male body. I feel okay with people calling me a boy. But I really want to be a girl at the same time. Is this caused by me coping for something else? Is it a natural part of puberty? I am quite confused and I hope someone can help me understand my feelings and gender identity.
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Hello, friend! I'm Lydia, a real, live transwoman, and it sounds to me like you've started a bit of a journey! Congratulations! I'm proud of you for looking into yourself and being willing to accept what you find! So, from the sound of things, you might be transgender, but I wouldn't be too committed to finding a label. Labels are there for general descriptive purposes, they're not some identity checklist that you must follow. I'm assuming your age, since you mentioned puberty, but in my teens I considered myself a cross-dresser, because I was comfortable with having a penis and hadn't really thought about why I liked woman's clothing and other typically feminine interests. When I really thought about it a few years ago, I realized that, while I may like and want to keep my... [ahem] "girl," in every other way I want to be a woman and I started down that road. That's where I am right now; down my path towards womanhood. I would recommend, while being very patient and gentle with yourself, figuring why you like to cross-dress. If it's just comfortable and fun to play around a bit, that's actually pretty normal. Most people would cross-dress if they could without social pressure, and you just want it a bit more than them. If you think you might want to make a few changes to your body or hormonal chemistry though, explore that. You may find something there you've been repressing for a long time. I sure did. Or maybe not! It's all part of learning. Also keep in mind, you don't have to commit to some arbitrary list of specific interests or behaviors to be "valid" as a transgender person. You should focus on figuring out what YOU want, not what is typical for others. Okay, honey, I think I've babbled at you long enough now, so I'll just say I hope that helps! Hugs and good vibes, sweetie!
My mtf trans though started 5 years ago so i know your dilemma. Im at the point I want to start transitioning
