This will be long and winded but I am desperately seeking advice... My close friend and I helped each other going through some pretty significant divorces to two horrible men. We were each other’s shoulders and greatest defense against our exes. We both have kids and use to text constantly, she was he last person I talked to at night and the first one I talked to in the morning. I’m not a very emotional person but with her I felt the connection right away. We would hug every time we saw each other, kiss cheeks, and hold hands. When our kids would have sleepovers we would hold hands and sleep in the same bed. I really started to get confused where the line of our friendship was and started wondering what if we crossed it further. I never discussed this with her, instead I oppresses it, moved 40 minutes away, and got remarried, and we grew apart. Now it’s been on my mind constantly and I can’t help wondering what if..... *Insert liquid courage here* I ended up telling her how confused I was and how I thought I might have feelings for her that were deeper than friendship. We still text off and on but haven’t hung out in over 2 years. She responded by saying that she didn’t know what to say and that I’ve had a lot of time to reflect on it so that’s what she is doing because it’s a lot to process. Is it possible she feels the same is just worried she will screw up my marriage? Or is she trying to figure out the kindest way to let me down gently? It’s been 3 weeks since I told her and I don’t understand why it’s taking her so long to respond. I’m not even sure what I intended by telling her other than it being on the back of my mind for years. I should say that I have never been interested in females before so this whole thing really confuses me and I’m not sure what I want. Any advice?