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Conditioned vs Unconditioned Nature

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by blagh, Oct 2, 2019.

  1. blagh

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    I saw it mentioned in another thread that it can be easy for people to confuse what they’ve been conditioned into being, versus who they really are.

    What is the best way to distinguish conditioned behaviour, thoughts and feelings from those that are true to one’s nature? What is the delineating line between these? And how does one go about seeing it more easily?
     
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    I'm not a therapist, so take this with a grain of salt. But, I think part of it is understanding your past. When you realize you were conditioned or brainwashed into some belief, it weakens it and helps you see through it. At least it was that way for me.
     
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    I think you're being too analytical with this. The whole nature of conditioning as it relates to sexual attraction is that it's something that happens over a long period of time and so you can't really pinpoint when and how it happens. The most reliable indicator of where your sexual arousal lies is masturbation fantasies (without porn) and where your eyes are wandering and looking when you aren't really consciously thinking about it.

    What's happening when you're aroused is going to be a more accurate gauge than trying to deconstruct conditioned responses.
     
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