Well im not sure where to put this so I figured I would put it here. Ok well im planning on coming out as trans to a few of my friends, they are some really good friends and well I was wondering, How should I come about doing this? Btw I'm FtM NOT MtF
Hi there! I think you could safely approach it as any other coming out. All you are trying to do is to give them the opportunity to get to know the real you and also (perhaps) allow them to form a closer friendship. When you come out and try to let your friends know, let them know why you have decided or feel that this is a journey you have to undertake. Your friends will understand and you allow them to get to know you at a whole different level. Maybe talk to your friends individually at a place where you feel comfortable. It might help you to feel more relaxed and also more in control of the conversation. Once you have settled down, begin to come out. Maybe prepare yourself for a few questions that your friends might have, just so that you are not caught off guard. If you feel uncomfortable with the idea of talking in person, you can also write them a letter or an e-mail. Any method that you choose is fine, as long as you feel comfortable with it and feel that this is the right way for you. If you decide to go down the letter route, write down everything you want them to know. Hope this helps a bit!
Here are some helpful links to help educate yourself and others. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trans_man http://www.pflagcanada.ca/en/index-e.asp The contact us in tihe PFLAG site has a number and email for gender identity issues too.
If you're gonna do this... be HONEST about how you feel. Don't say something that's half true, but still covering up another part. But considering our convo right now, that shouldn't be a problem, at least with your mom anyway. You might want to be able to explain some stuff like "wtf does that mean" and "how does that change again?" to other people too. People WILL ask... trust me.
I would think this depends on how old your friends are and / or how knowledgable and accepting they are on this subject.
Well just first come out to the ones you believe most accepting about it. Just test the waters just by finding out what they think of transexuals. anyway here is a link to an transgenered support site http://www.lauras-playground.com/index.htm
OMG I did it my friends accepted it and said it would take awhile to get used to but they accepted it my mom I havn't talked to since I left the house this morning. I wrote her a letter and left before she read it.
Congratulations on coming out to your friends! Glad it went well for you! Hope all goes well with coming out to your mum. Let us know how it goes!
Just occurred to me it says i'm out to everyone. I'm out to everyone as pan... Which isn't perhaps the whole truth...
fu*k she did not take it well she thinks it's all a phase she was like you are a GIRL and will always be a GIRL then she was like you will get over it
Hi there! I'm sorry to hear that your mum didn't take it well. (*hug*) Give her time to come around to it. I know this can be really hard after having learned that your mum needs time to come around and adjust to it, but it is important that you do try to communicate with her about your feelings and the reasons as to why you want to undergo the process. Education is the key and you are the best person to educate your mum about it. A couple of members have provided you with links to online resources. These resources can help you in that as well. Here is a further link that provides you with some resources that could be useful. Also, PFLAG has a greay support guide for families and friends. I would encourage you to print it out and to give it to your mum to read. You can find the link here, under "download our new Welcoming Our Trans Family and Friends!" It is a PDF file, which you can print out. Also, it is important that you do have some support during this time. Maybe try joining a LGBT support group in your community or at school (if your school has one) as well. Your friends are supportive and accepting. Talk to them if you need to, and try to build on that support network that you already have in place. (*hug*)
