Thanks everyone for the helpful threads that are already here! I'm turning 40 in a few months and feel like I'm finally sorting out my identity. It never occurred to me I could be gay until much more recently. Growing up in a rural, religious context meant gay people were invisible (gay woman) or negatively labeled (gay men). I didn't even meet an openly gay woman that I got to know until my mid-twenties. After that, I had positive views about other people being gay but didn't think about my own identity. A lot of my life makes more sense if I'm gay looking back. I have a Trans son (in his teens) so over the past several years since he came out we've gotten more involved in the LGBTQ+ community in general. I'm currently married to a man (my 2nd marriage to a man). He's supportive fortunately and we're considering opening up our marriage. My main question currently about coming out while married is how you navigated that. I want to be who I am openly but I don't want certain people knowing or asking intrusive questions about my marriage arrangement (for example my parents, let alone my in-laws). Any thoughts?