Pretty sure at this point I’m just queer . Im attracted to all genders even though I have a slight preference one way over another and I don’t feel comfortable with saying I’m gay because I definitely have attraction to more than just women . I feel the need to tell my boyfriend and we’ve only been together a few months . He’s already head over heals for me and I feel like I’m not being honest to not tell him . I didn’t even think about it at first or that it was an issue but it is because I don’t really want to be monogamous either and it’s just denying who I am to keep it hidden . I’m also not ok just being with another man in a heterosexual relationship and denying that part of who I am like I did for all the decades before . So if he’s ok with it and ok with the fact I’m also more poly in my thinking that’s fine But if not then we can part ways . I just don’t know how to even bring it up to him
Ravenley.....So sorry that no one has replied to you since you've posted! The most important part of any relationship is communication. Not sharing this with him will only make it into a bigger and bigger problem until it does come out. It's far better to talk to him now than to wait, let the relationship become more established and then when you can't stand it any longer, drop the bomb. He could rightly be upset that you didn't say anything sooner. If telling him how you feel is going to breakup the relationship, then it's a lot better to do it now than later. I wish you and your boyfriend the best whether it's together or separate. .....David
I agree with quebec. You've gotta talk to him. I'm not polyamorous so I wouldn't know much, but I'd say you should ask if he's okay with you having other relationships or attractions. I also agree that tell him while the relationship is newer, as opposed to waiting.
It was hard for me to come out to my wife about me being Bi. My best advice I can give you is don't rush or feel like there's a time limit come out when you feel ready.