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Coming Out Parties

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Richelle1, Dec 30, 2021.

  1. Richelle1

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    With 40 percent of Gen Z coming out as LBGQ I have an idea to make us more mainstream. Why not have people that come out have a Coming Out party similar to a barmitzvah? Everyone can have their own and celebrate it however they want. It might not work in some places yet but the joy will slowly spread over time.
     
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    I assume it would be optional? We’re not all party people. :slight_smile:

    I think, ideally, I would like a world where we don’t need to come out at all. So, people can just be what they want to be and live their life, without the need to make an announcement. Though, if you want to, then crack on!

    Would everyone have a party or just LGBT people?
     
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    To be honest that would be a pretty cool idea but personally I wouldn't take part in one or have one myself because I'm quite introverted and the thought of it turns my blood cold.
     
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    I'm actually intending to have one, once I'm out to everyone and we're all safely post-Covid. :slight_smile:

    Is that a published stat? And if so, from which country? I'd be very surprised if it's as high as that...
     
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    Nice. :slight_smile: Let us know how it goes.
     
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    I'm just thinking about the complexities of the invitation list. If you are throwing a party, you would presumably wish for it to be a celebration that passes without incident? Wouldn't that require you to know in advance where all of your guests stand in terms of their support for the LGBTQ community? Invite one wrong person and your party could become a bit of a scene that will live in everyone's memory for all the wrong reasons.

    Not dismissing the idea, because it's really nice, but I think you would have to have done a lot of coming out before the party.
     
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    Well, of course. Is it technically a 'coming out' party if you've already come out to everyone?

    Ultimately...who cares? But it'll (hopefully) happen sometime in 2022, by which time I think all of my friends - even those whose lives have been relatively unblighted over the last two years - will be in need of a party..
     
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    I hate parties so it sounds terrible. I’m an introvert to the point I barely see people. The only people who would come to a party would be relatives, half of whom I would happily push off a cliff including my aunts homophobic husband. I don’t need the stress.
     
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    I especially like the idea of trans people having a name reveal party (like a gender reveal)
     
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    If other people want to do it, awesome. But personally, it was nerve-wracking enough making an announcement over social media. I'm an introvert, so parties (even with people I like) tend to deplete my batteries pretty quickly. Overall, I have to agree with the sentiment of being in a world where no one has to come out at all; that being bi/gay/etc. is treated the same as being straight.

    That's my end goal--never having to explain to anyone ever again. Just being.