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Coming out motivation

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by choni, Sep 17, 2018.

  1. choni

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    Hey everyone. I told myself awhile ago I wanted to come out to my parents before I go away to college, but that date has snuck up on me and is now 2 days away. And my stepmom isn't coming to move me in, so basically I have a day to tell them. I want to, but I'm so scared. I know they'll be accepting, and I wouldn't be putting myself in some type of danger by coming out, but for some reason I can't bring myself to say it. I've made coming out to be like some life-altering revelation, even though I know it isn't. I just feel like I'll seem like a whole new person to them, and I guess I'm scared of that. I'm looking for motivation though because I feel ready to come out. I don't think I'll ever not feel scared or nervous, so I figure it's time to do it. Now I'm even second guessing coming out at all and just waiting until I get a girlfriend (at that rate maybe they'll never find out lmao). But I think I'm just being silly. I'm ready for them to know, but I can't say it. I don't know if that makes sense. Any advice? Words of encouragement?
     
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    You got this! I was in your position a week ago almost. I came out to my mom by text and am so glad I did. No regrets. I was terrified too! I actually totally psyched myself out and got really scared even though I knew she probably already knew and wouldn't care. And sure enough she knew. She was a bit confused because I seemed straight for much of my growing up, but she accepted it no problem. I say take a deep breath and do it. It feels great afterward.
     
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    I was gonna write my mum a letter when I came out. I am older, but in the end I phoned my mum as this was easier for me than a face to face conversation. It was still hard for me but I felt empowered after My sister, I sent her a text but it was more like a letter!
    You will feel so much better once you tell yiur mum. But it had to be when you are ready and don't put pressure on yourself.
     
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