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Coming out is a bit anticlimactic, isn't it?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Fuzzy, Oct 29, 2020.

  1. Fuzzy

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    I suppose I should be grateful for that, but it does feel a little odd to have held it all in for so long and have it change absolutely nothing. I was married, but I came out to him and worked toward separation a while ago, so I guess all the big changes already happened. Now if this stupid COVID and other natural disasters could stop getting in the way of my dating life, that would be great!
     
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    Congratulations. I wish that it went this way for everyone. Things would be so much easier.
     
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    I hope that telling my husband is anti climactic but suspect it won't be. Yep coming out during Covid is rather limiting isn't it. I haven't even tried to date yet for obvious reasons but zoom calls aren't exactly what I had in mind.
     
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    My husband (recently ex husband) has known for years before I came out more broadly. Having taken care of that and a lot of the personal emotional baggage ahead of time has aided in it being anticlimactic. As for dating, I have someone I met months ago, but so much has gotten in the way of us dating.
     
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    Congratulations on your coming out! I agree it can be a bit anti-climatic. We spend so much time gearing up to tell someone and then once it's done, everything feels the same. I suppose in a way it's not entirely the same. I felt a huge weight had been lifted from within.
     
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    Fuzzy.....Congrats on coming out! It's a very important step regardless of how much "hoopla" surrounds it. For some of us, it's not that big a deal as we feel that many of our friends/family already know. There are some people, like a friend of mine, who says that he never did "come out", he just was who he always was and everybody knew. Then there is me. I was tortured by that secret for more than 40 years and my coming out was a dam bursting. I'm so glad for you that you've passed that milepost and I hope that the dating scene will eventually get to the place where the weekend can be something to look forward to! :old_smile:
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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