So I'm doing an early decision to William ando Mary, and while it isn't due until November 1st, I really need this cleared up so it doesn't bother me for months on end. So I don't know much about the college application process, but how would I go about coming out, or dropping a hint, in my essay or something without my parents knowing? I feel like anything I write without my real story is going to a bunch of lame bull, and it wouldn't be authentic. That college is very lgbt friendly and has several incredibly helpful and amazing policies for inclusiveness to transgender or otherwise non-cis people. Only problem is, I'm not out to my parents and won't come out to them until college unless something radically changes; as of now, I will not change my stance on that. I don't need to cause any disasters in the house I'm still gonna be living in for another year. Anyway, I'm considering writing a bull-but-believable and well-written essay to my parents, a decoy so to speak, but having a secret different one (the one I'm actually sending to the college) saved in my documents as well. I could hopefully tell my parents that I want to do the application on my own, and thanks for their help but it's my responsibility and my job alone in the end, and hopefully that or something similar should do it. I already have a general idea, one where I could write about the impacts of my diverse (international studies, has a gsa, etc) school, and my volunteer work experiences and school friendships, have had on making me a better person, expanding my worldview, making me more open minded (thought I need to figure out how to do that bit without it seeming like I was ever closed minded or competely ignorant of the world or anything, as that was never the case, but it did make me a better person and open me up to a lot of real issues in the world). But it wouldn't really be complete without a part about my experiences as a trans person and how it's made me connect with people who have hardships of some kind in their life and how it's made me truly think about what most people take for granted...being able to simply be recognized as themselves with no one much as batting an eye at them, being able to live authentically, being able to live without fear or depression or dysphoria gnawing at them every day (the fear of being outed before you're ready, the instability and insecurity of that, and the instability and insecurity that comes wih living as a trans person, everything from finances and housing to job apps or legal forms, to simply being able to shop at the friggin grocery store without your legal name still ruining things until you change it...the list can go on and on), how all of that can drag a person down and beat them into the ground on a daily basis but make them stronger if they can overcome it, being able to have the basic and much-overlooked human right of simply being called by your correct name and pronouns without any crap or struggles for it...all that is what will really make my application have an impact. I can truly pour my heart into it. If I've dealt with all the crap that comes with being trans for nearly 18 years (and will deal with it, in varying degrees, for several years more until I'm fully transitioned and out...it's 24/7 and until I'm transitioned, and maybe even a bit then for the rest of my life, it's 24/7 and has no such thing as giving you a break. That's some heavy crap and it's certainly impacted me enough to write quite a lot about it), I will sure as hell use it to my advantage. I don't mean making a stupid overdone sob story, but a true and deep story about how my experiences have affected me and opened my mind and made me stronger. This is becoming long but see, I will have zero problem knowing what to write, I just need to know how to go about it without being outed to my parents. Anyway, how could I go about doing this? Does my current plan sound ok, do yall have any plan b's or a completely different approach, etc? Also, is my general idea ok but maybe I should tone it down a bit, or should I go for full impact and write honestly, openly, emotionally, etc about it? I don't want to dump a whole book on them but at the same time I don't want it be lacking in any way. If there's any weird typos, I'm typing from mobile, so it's probably autocorrect lol.