Child abuse, yet another book

This post is primarily to those parents with children, maybe their'e gay, maybe not. With a high degree of certainty, via self assessment, I have determined I was abused in my early to mid teens. Yes my sexuality, a gay teen, was a key component of the abuse.

So why the post. I offer lesson learned. One (of many) things that would have made a difference in my life would have been "other", adults, connecting with me, listed to me and caring about me. The only adult who connected with me was my mom, the abuser. So in essence there was a single point failure in my life - my mom.

Yesterday I ordered my ~12 book targeting child psychology, sexuality, abuse concerns. The book is titled: Overcoming Childhood Trauma: A Self-Help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioral Techniques. Dont do to your child what has been done to me.

Parenting is a big, complicated job. Let others help.

 

I think the book I referenced in this post is going to be good. I browsed it via Google Books to check level of understanding. For instance there are three main types of abuse stated in the book. Emotional, physical, sexual. The abuse I received was mostly emotional although there was a bit of "proxy physical abuse" thrown in for laughs.

The main way my mom abused me was via control and shame. She was very loving but always wanted to control me and everyone else in the family. She would also never try to see the other persons point of view, you know like a person has their own dreams and aspirations. Then she shamed me for a very innocent situation with another 14 year old - two males. Shaming lasted to long, like ~3 years.

I can relate to your mother abuse situation. Hang in there.