If someone posts that homosexuality is wrong, EC members would strongly disagree with that point of view. I have seen several posts pointing out that cheating as part of sexual discovery is wrong. One could also make a case that divorce is wrong using the same logic (a broken commitment), yet we don't see many posts about the morality of divorce. What is the difference between cheating and divorce? Both involve breaking a promise. The reality is that cheating and divorce are often part of the process of coming out later in life. Why then does cheating evoke strong moralistic judgements whereas divorce and homosexuality do not? When someone is still in the closet and in a mixed-orientation marriage, they have learned from an early age that who they are is wrong from church, society, family or friends. They've internalized this message so much that they feel they need to lie about their sexuality to the world and pretend to be someone who they are not. It's not uncommon for people who come out later in life to have an affair with a member of the same sex to help them explore and clarify their sexual orientation, especially if they entered a marriage with no gay experiences. For many this is a required part of the process and provides validation of the inner self and rejection of the faux self created to meet the expectations of others. Personally I do not feel that it's appropriate or helpful to judge others who did what was necessary to find themselves. My view is far more pragmatic and non-judgmental, for many this was a necessary step of self-discovery and based on their experience they realized that they need to make changes in their life and found their way to EC. Shaming people because of cheating is as unhelpful as beating them up because it's taken X years to come out. Everyone comes out when they are ready via their own path.