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Changes after coming out

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Tikimon20, Sep 6, 2021.

  1. Contented

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    I think it quite common to have a spike in your libido as you come out . You are finally liberated from the heteronormative programming and free to embrace your true sexuality which in most cases was hidden. For me the increased libido was off the charts. The first two years with my BF I had more incredible sex than the previous ten years with women. We used any excuse to be intimate. That intense fire has banked somewhat but still is extremely high. I believe it is part of having had to hide my true sexual orientation for so long when the dam finally broke it was a torrent of sexual and emotional energy. The pleasure was way beyond anything I ever experienced with a woman ever and I just wanted more and more.
     
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    eron and I'm gay like this.
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    Another thing I noticed after coming out to myself, was that my fantasies are more about real guys I've seen, met, or thought about. Sure, a nice, sexy model picture or gay porn can be arousing, but, for me, it's way more arousing and sexually exciting to fantasize and think about someone I know or met.