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Can't Sleep. Eating me Up Inside.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Love4Ever, Aug 30, 2018.

  1. Love4Ever

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    I wanted to thank all of you on this entire thread for being so supportive! I really appreciate it. For someone who does not have IRL gay friends I am so happy to have all of you. I don't think I could have come out either without help. I knew that you all had my back and it let me be brave. So many thanks.
     
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    Thank you! I really can't believe I did it. Waiting for her response was nerve wracking but I am so grateful it's done.
     
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    So happy for you and glad everything worked out. Hopefully this brings you and your mom even closer :slight_smile:
     
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    I think it's safe to say you have the hardest part of the matter done with. Now just gay/bi it up!
     
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    Thanks. I do feel much better now. No more waking up in a panic imaging how it could all go wrong. I can just relax now. It makes me feel good to know my mom at least won't be shocked if I bring a girl home. I didn't need her blessing to do that, but I like having it all the same.
     
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    I hope so too. I just feel relieved.
     
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    I bet and your heart just a little bit lighter
     
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    Hey I just wanna say I'm SO happy for you, that was really brave and I know how daunting it is because I still haven't come out to my mom. I hope you feel amazing and that you have an awesome time feeling free to pursue same-sex relationships with that weight off your shoulders.
     
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    Thank you. It was surprisingly difficult despite the fact her reaction is exactly what I expected. I guess there is always that doubt that something could blow up in your face though. But I do feel freer now to not hide as much.
     
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    Congrats!!!
     
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    Thank you!
     
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    Congrats you did it !
     
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    Good for you, I don't think it works for me to come out to my mom. Some of my friends insisted to do so though, Saying that "She's your mom and she wants you to be happy anyway. So she'll accept it."
    But i'm dead sure it's not a good idea. It just makes her upset.
    I think she already knows on some level as well though.

    So that's why i'd say good for you. :‌))
     
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    Thank you! She accepted it but she was and still is confused. I don't think she really gets bisexuality. She has gay brothers but no one in our family identifies as bi. So I knew going into this it would be hard to make that make sense to her.
     
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    Congratulations
     
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    Thank you!
     
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    Congrats on coming out to your Mom.
     
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    Thank you.
     
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    There's nothing wrong being Bi
     
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    Hey! I know you've already gotten a million people saying congrats, but I just wanted to say ditto on that. Congratulations on coming out to your mom! :raised_hands: I'm happy that you gained the courage to do it; it's a big step, so pat yourself on the back. Seriously. Do it. It's a great accomplishment to be able to come out to someone close to you. There's definitely a difference between coming out to friends and coming out to parents.

    It's something that I've wished for a long time that I could do with my parents without the whole, "You are condemned to damnation," speech and whatnot. I know we don't really know each other that well, but I'm genuinely proud of you. :blush:
     
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