I've planned to come out to my mom today. My initial idea was to come out during breakfast but I couldn't do it. I've been wanting to do this for a long time, but I'm really nervous and I always end up talking myself out it. I know things are going to be ok with her, she's told a lot of times that she would love me no matter what, but I just can't seem to push myself to have that talk because of my anxiety.
Maybe coming out in person isn't right for you. You could also write a letter, text, or email, or if you still want it to come from your voice, you could try sending her an audio or video message. I know I can't handle coming out in person; in fact, I once texted a friend I wanted to come out to even though I was sitting right next to her. Good luck with whatever you decide to do -Christine
So I finally did it! I came out to my mom and she was so great about it. We talked about my gf and she told me that everything was ok with her and that I had to do whatever makes me happy. I feel so great and so relief right now.
Okay, well, it sounds like you want to be out, and everything will be fine once you are out. It's just the act of saying it that scares you, right? There are a number of ways around this. You could write a letter, send her that song by Ally Hills, maybe send a text(I don't recommend that). Or, you could still do it in person. I get really nervous to do things as well, always have. I don't have anxiety disorder, and I don't know how bad your anxiety is. But I can tell you this, I always feel a world of relief after forcing myself to forcing myself to do something terrifying. How do I get to that point though? I just do it. Now, I understand that not everyone can force themselves to face their fears like I can. But it's worth a try because it feel so good. What I do is let myself forget that the person I am talking to even exists, just for a second. Or anything else. I just let myself forget that there will be any consequences, or any future, for that matter. Just for a second. In that second, I force myself to say what I have to say. Then everything comes back, and I'm terrified, because now it's too late to take it back. But it usually ends well, and I feel soooo good once I realize there's nothing to be afraid of. But, if that is too terrifying, the indirect methods work too. (writing a letter, sending that music video, etc.) I am only telling you this under the assumption that you are ready though. From your post, you sound like it's the act of saying it that scares you, not her knowing. If her knowing is what scares you, then the fear might come from you not being ready to come out. Make sure you are ready, but it sounds like you are.
Oh then I typed all that for nothing Oh well, maybe it will help someone. But really though, I am so glad it went well for you.
Thanks, anyway! You were right. It was the act of saying that I'm a lesbian what terryfied me. I don't know yet how I was able to build up the courage, but now it's done and it went great.
