Hi, I could use some advice and hear other's opinions. A guy and I started talking about a month ago. It was really weird because we connected super quick and got very personal very fast. We went on two dates over two weeks and had a fantastic time. We were talking EVERY morning before I started work and EVERY night for at least an hour. He got sick and we didn't see each other for the next two weeks. In that time we realized we may be at different points of life and also different stages of being out. He is very much in the closet (dating guys, but no one in his life knows he is interested in men) while I am fully out. We decided pursuing dating may not be best right now. He doesn't have anyone in his life to discuss dating or anything "gay" related with. I agreed to being his friend and being there for him because I imagine how hard it is to have no one to talk to and I really care about him. A main reason we did break it off is he is looking to settle down in the next few years and I'm not in the position. I don't plan to move in with a guy or any of that for at least 4-5 years while I figure my life out. I tried to be supportive and encourage him to go on a date with a guy he started talking to. They had the date last night and I ended up finding out they did sexual things together. I was extremely upset. I thought I could be supportive and I want to be there for him, but since he isn't out, the most we did is hug (we met in the city for dates and he hates PDA), while he invited this guy back to his place after one date and they did stuff. I was supposed to see him today, but I freaked out on him last night. I let my jealousy show and told him I was upset he could just go and sleep with someone so quickly after we broke it off. I know I sound hypocritical because I did encourage him to go on the date. But the thing is we have continued talking every morning / night and texting all throughout the day. We say things like "I miss you" and "I cannot wait to see you." He wants to still have this close bond with me, but I really don't think it's fair because that is very misleading. He seems to think this is how friends can act, but I don't talk on the phone every night with my friends and speak to them all throughout the day every day. Am I in the wrong here? I know I was hypocritical to encourage him to go on the date and then I freaked out on him - I shouldn't have done that and I feel bad. But isn't it too fresh and unrealistic to think we can be close friends when there are feelings there? Thank you for your help in advance.