Hello All, When I broke up with my ex a few months ago, we sort of just ended it without a good talk as to why (the decision to breakup was initiated by me but due to being hurt by my ex's behavior). She had emotional issues which meant she would lash out unfairly and never talk things out...just dysfunctional in all aspects. We had some sporadic contact in the weeks that followed but nothing helpful (and sometimes even more hurtful) until I just let go completely. I never had closure because she was incapable of acting like a caring human being, so I tried to sort of give that to myself as best as I could. Why is this relevant now? As I'm trying to get back into dating again, I've noticed that even thinking about a relationship triggers sad thoughts of hurt feelings from my last dating experience. I really thought I had moved past this. Could it be that I just didn't have closure & haven't done a good job of properly dealing with that? I feel like I closed the last chapter but I guess hurt feelings from that experience are keeping me from going forward. I'm not at all thinking about my ex; in fact, I get depressed just thinking about what a mistake it was to date her (she was not even close to what I want from a partner). It's really frustrating because I've met someone that I'm excited about but something is holding me back. I want to be my happy self again but I can't somehow. I can't figure out what to do. Anyone had this issue before?