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Came out today to eight people at once

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Mysteria, Aug 8, 2017.

  1. Mysteria

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    I was at this event where we split into small groups, and I was part of a group of eight. One of the eight was a new friend, the other a new acquaintance, the rest strangers. One of the things we were supposed to share was something we were thankful for. On a spur of the moment decision, I shared that I was thankful for my friend coming down this weekend and going with me to Pride (our town holds it later), so I could be out and be myself for a little while without worrying about my family. My friend asked "Pagan Pride?" (that's coming up too) and I said, no, the other one. I could tell by her face she got it. I could also tell she didn't care- in the good way of not caring. This was a very liberal group so it felt safe, but that's a big thing for me to do, especially since I tend to be more self-conscious in groups, so I thought I'd share.
     
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    Hey hey! Good job! You win Tuesday, this week. :wink:
     
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    congrats. It's funny my first 'out' was the same - I just blurted it out... I didn't think coming out was a big deal but after it felt so good, liberating, freeing!
    How does it feel?
     
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    Amazing!! How do you feel?!
     
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    So wonderful kunoichi, well done bravo to you...can feel in your words and between the lines lightness and joy... so pleased for you.. your an inspiration...!!!

    I've found a local meetup - an intimate group for older men such as me, and intend going to their next get-together..its in my diary... I'm excited, nervous, committed...its time, and reading your experience put more light on why...its me. Thank you and well done to you.
     
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    My very question too...yay!!!!!!!
     
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    Hey congratulations that's great.
     
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    I felt today almost like maybe it didn't happen. When I got together with the two people I knew today we were just chatting and I was trying to work it into conversation. They stayed very casual about it, just like if I had said the same stuff about a male partner. Which is exactly what I wanted. I am sure if I needed to talk about it I could have, but just to have it acknowledged as a reality was enough for now.
    And it's also kind of scary, because it's out there now. It's spoken. What if I'm wrong? Can I take it back?
     
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    Thanks everyone! It was a completely nerve wracking thing to do but it put me on a "high" the rest of the night. Then today I felt like I almost had to verify that it happened. Such a weird feeling.
     
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    Of course you can take it back. These things often to other people aren't nearly as big a deal as they are to us and we make them in our mind and that's just the nature of the beast but I think sometimes the ease with which other people react can almost come as a surprise as well.
     
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    Yes it's scary but what I found is the really scary part is acknowledging the passion I was feeling.
    the 'fear of being wrong' is common because it can feel like it's all in our heads. You can always take it back as @silverhalo said but if it helps, many of us who now know we were very very right :slight_smile: felt this way!

    yes that's how I felt! and that I could be more honest with people that mattered. Not everyone has to know your personal life and feelings, but I felt I could be so much more open around people I cared about.
     
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    So beautiful to read...
     
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    Wow. How brave and how inspiring!