Hi, before I get into any of the details, I’ll explain our relationship first. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and the last few months our sex has changed. He doesn’t want to kiss me anymore, he never starts it anymore, and when we do do it, he never finishes. He says that he’s stressed about work and hates waking up and having to go to his shitty job. I understand that, his mom worked there as well and things didn’t end well with her and the boss, so there is tension at his work everyday. He says it’s a toxic environment and that he is mentally and physically drained. I understand that and I’ve seen it myself from when he is on leave compared to when he is working. He is really down and depressed. At least he gets excited to see me. Last week Friday he got suspended at work for no reason, purely because his boss is an asshole. Luckily my boyfriend has a lot of evidence about the company and his boss to take him down and the company too. He and his mom were the only competent people working there. We see each other once a week as we live 50km apart from each other. And I am a hairdresser, so I work every Saturday. So we stay together Saturday and Sunday as we both live with our parents. We used to have very passionate sex, when we first did it, he would really go at me and make my skin shiver to the touch. (Warning:This might get graphic) He used to kiss my body up and down and blow me, he would kiss my neck until it’s blood red. He was usually open to try anything that I would, obviously within reason, if he was uncomfortable he would tell me and we’d change what we do. I think we communicate quite well with each other, but some things are still either awkward or just unclear with each other. I think we’re still figuring out what we like to do with/to each other. I am usually the bottom, but he loves it as well. We used to always have sex where I’m laying on the bed and he’s standing, then we changed to him laying down and me riding him. And that worked well for us. It was something different and exciting. We used to occasionally switch between the two, depending on our mood. However when he bottoms, he will not ride me. He is a larger man, so I think he is afraid of hurting me, or doesn’t like the idea of him jiggling. I get that, he has not exactly said that, but I assume that’s why he doesn’t want to ride. Now in the last few months, he doesn’t want to do anything, he says I’m obsessed with sex. He made it very clear that sex isn’t everything to him, he’s fine with not having sex for extended periods of time, I sometimes feel like I need to remind him that he’s not single, and he can have sex with me whenever he wants. I’m not someone who will refuse to do it, especially with him. He does so much for me that I feel like that’s the only way I can repay him. We’re in a rut when it comes to our sex life. I feel like I don’t know what to do to make him finish. He used to always finish, and it’s the most attractive thing to me, seeing him feel the utmost pleasure, it’s better than me finishing to be honest. I don’t know when is the right time anymore, because he’s always tired, but he still get still gets hard all the time when we’re laying in bed together, and then he doesn’t want me to do anything about it. And lately, I feel like I’ve been forcing him to have sex with me. And we discussed it, he said he feels pressured to do it and finish. And that broke my heart. So I told him I’ll wait until he’s ready again, and then he should start it. He said it might be a while, but I didn’t expect it to be a month and still nothing. Last weekend I tried it again, because I thought he could use a stress reliever from what’s happening at work. And he went with it, but I could see he wasn’t feeling it. And he didn’t finish, I practically had to beg him to try and stand and do it, he just kept telling me it’s not gonna change anything. I want to talk to him about it again, and that I know he doesn’t want to do it, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t have the urge to do it. I want to ask that at least once in a while he blows me and I try blow him, not have sex, just blow each other. Until he feels like he can have sex again. It feels so weird to say that. This has really been getting me down, I’ve felt like he doesn’t want me anymore, that he doesn’t find me attractive anymore, but he keeps reassuring me that it’s not the case. It’s his work bringing him down and affecting his mood and energy. It just feels like he might only have sex with me in 6 months from now. That he might forget entirely about sex. I like to have sex with him because I feel so close and connected to him, but now that he doesn’t show any interest in it, it doesn’t feel like it used to. Luckily he still touches me and makes me feel loved and wanted, so I know he still wants me. I’m just lost and confused. I’m scared it’s gonna be 6months or longer and he still won’t want to have sex. I don’t think it’s healthy for our relationship to not have sex for a long period of time. I’m scared of growing apart. I’m probably overreacting, but I don't want us to be that couple who only has sex on our anniversary once a year. I want us to be passionate about it again. I think now that he’s not going to work he might feel better, but I think the stress of finding a new job might get to him even more. What should I do? I don’t know how to go on with this situation or how to fix it. I’m scared if we leave it too long, he might not want it at all and forget about it, or I might burst and he won’t care and just say that I’m too obsessed with sex. All I want is to have a fun sex life where we try new things every once in a while and always finish. I could really use some advice about this. Thank you.