Hi I am new here but want to say tgst I totally understand. I have only just got involved with a man I love and have only had sex with him for the past 6 months. I was so anxious about who would be top and who the bottom. I became so anxious that I was unable to perform at all. Now I no longer pressure myself. I love this guy deeply but need to know what I am willing to do and what I am comfortable with. For too long I lived in a sexual fantasy world which did not help me when it came to real relationships, now I try to be as real and genuine as I can.