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Books or articles that might help?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by ajw347, May 15, 2018.

  1. ajw347

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    I'm not 100% sure that I'm a lesbian, what I can tell you is that I've never been in a relationship or had a sexual experience with anyone. I don't like the sexual fluidity think either, because it makes it sound like I might like women now but then in 10 years I will want a man. I don't know if I every really wanted to be with a man or not, but for the past few years I have had no interest in being with men. I decided to go to therapy to help me figure this out along with a bunch of other issues. I feel like the therapist wants some kind of justification from my childhood to explain everything. I don't get it. How am I supposed to know if I was sexually attracted to women at age 5? I can't even remember what I did last week.

    OK getting that out of the way, does anyone have any books or article about women discovering they're into women without a sexual story behind it. I'm looking for things that don't end in..... I kissed her and we had sex and then I knew I was a lesbian kind of thing. Or something that doesn't involve a women who was married to a man then discovered she like women.

    I guess I'm truly trying to figure out is if I know I don't want to sleep with a man does that mean i want to make a life with a women? I'm not the type of person who can just sleep around either so it's an all or nothing thing for me. I'll struggling to know if i'm all in or not.
     
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    from experience i can say that trying to see things black or white (gay or straight) and trying to make myself "pick" has created more pain than was needed...i have never kissed a woman but i just feel that whenever i find a woman attractive the "pull" is so intense. i want to be with her, make her laugh, care for her, hold her...etc (none of which involve kissing and still its so much more than i would want to do with men or any of my friends)..sorry this is no book or article, just my life! :slight_smile:
     
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    That does help a little, thank you. When I got home from college I remember having this intense feeling of wanting to connect with a women on an emotional level. At the time I thought I was just looking for a friend (it's hard for me to find friends) now I think it's more than that. Part of my problem is that it's hard for me to feel a sexual attraction to actual people. There is a women I met through a facebook group and while I've been commenting on her post and sent her messages. I like that rapport we have on FB, but when I see her in person I don't know if I'm really attracted to her or just like her enough to want to be friends.