I'm not 100% sure that I'm a lesbian, what I can tell you is that I've never been in a relationship or had a sexual experience with anyone. I don't like the sexual fluidity think either, because it makes it sound like I might like women now but then in 10 years I will want a man. I don't know if I every really wanted to be with a man or not, but for the past few years I have had no interest in being with men. I decided to go to therapy to help me figure this out along with a bunch of other issues. I feel like the therapist wants some kind of justification from my childhood to explain everything. I don't get it. How am I supposed to know if I was sexually attracted to women at age 5? I can't even remember what I did last week. OK getting that out of the way, does anyone have any books or article about women discovering they're into women without a sexual story behind it. I'm looking for things that don't end in..... I kissed her and we had sex and then I knew I was a lesbian kind of thing. Or something that doesn't involve a women who was married to a man then discovered she like women. I guess I'm truly trying to figure out is if I know I don't want to sleep with a man does that mean i want to make a life with a women? I'm not the type of person who can just sleep around either so it's an all or nothing thing for me. I'll struggling to know if i'm all in or not.