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Bisexuals: Are you attracted to both genders equally?

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  1. Sivert

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    Have you ever actually liked both men and women equally? I find that all the bisexuals I speak to lean heavily on one side or the other. I never understood how that happens. I don't find anything to compare to in men and women. It's like comparing apples to grapes. :grimacing:

    Any bisexuals on here relate or mind sharing their own personal polarization?
     
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    For me personally I'm attracted to men 100% and women 0%.
     
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    Hi Sivert... I'm only 21 and have had my first girl girl relationship, which I'm still in. I've dated guys when I was younger and I find them sexy and have had feelings for one in particular but most guys my age are....um... lets use the word immature. I've never had sex with a guy so my gf was the first. Right now I lean more towards girls but I'm not that experienced with either to give an honest answer.
     
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    I see what you mean, seems like you've had interesting experiences. Do you find it easier to connect with girls due to your inclination towards women?
     
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    Not really, I connect with guys and girls about the same. I'm an Aquarian so I get along with just about anyone. I had never dated a girl before and just sort of... fell into this relationship head over boots. :slight_smile:
     
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    That sounds great! Good to know these types of romances still exist overall.
     
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    Emotionally more attracted to guys, physically more to girls. It's true that I tend to go for girls who are more "masculine", and guys who are more "feminine", but there are some traits, like intelligence, that apply equally to both. Then again, I'm so close to being a Kinsey 3 that it makes little to no difference. Maybe you're the same as me?
     
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    Oh I see, that's cool how you like the opposite attributions/isms in both genders. Seems like in the end you know where you lean more towards. Awesomeness!

    But no I like both the same way, like I said I don't really compare the two. I appreciate the two for their differences. Guess I'm alone there :sweat_smile:
     
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    I'm sexually attracted to both, but only romantically attracted to women. So, I guess you could say I lean more towards women.

    But I don't really have a lot of experience with either to say for sure.
     
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    Insightful, so would you say that you just find guys dull and girls more exciting in the romance department then?
     
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    I wouldn't say I find guys dull, I just can't really picture myself in a relationship with a guy at this point in time, but I don't know, that could change. Especially since I have no experience whatsoever with either men or women, so I'm mainly going by what sort of feelings I have had in the past.
     
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    For me it depends on the day.
     
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    70:30 in favour of girls :slight_smile:
     
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    I like "femininity" in men and women. It's just that way. I'm about in the middle of the Kinsey Scale. I feel very "bi". I have no preference as far as I know. I noticed that I tend to look for the same traits in both men and women like intelligence, sensitivity, good sense of humour etc. There are also similarities in exterior: high cheeckbones are a turn on and lots of muscles a turn off no matter the gender for example. This said, I sometimes just fall for the person so how a person looks can be less important to me.
     
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    Seems like you're pretty certain of what you like. You're pretty precise about certain things, makes everything all that more interesting.
     
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    I think I'm into all genders fairly equally. Though I think I'm attracted to them in different ways, if that makes sense.
     
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    I have a preference for guys. Prob around 58% guys, 42% girls.
     
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    I have always been more drawn to men than women.

    At a young age, I was attracted to men first. I didn't discover an attraction to women until my teens.

    I also find sex with women "messier" which has always bugged me a bit. For this reason, back when I was single, sex in the shower was the norm when it came to having sex with women. Either that or a shower immediately afterward was needed. I've not had that issue with men.
     
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    I'd say it's 60/40 in favor of women. But to put it into a better focus I find myself falling for trans women more than I do cis (due to a personal connection). Personality wise introverts and ambiverts catch my eye more than extroverts (as I'm typically the more dominant one). So I think I find women more attractive because feminine and introverted qualities are usually discouraged in guys. Though I've had an interaction with an androgynous person lately and they have me more curious in that area. >.>
     
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    It's about 80/20 in favor of girls.