I'll try (and fail) to keep this short. Essentially, for as long as I can remember, I've been attracted to women. In many ways, I've only had eyes for women. Over the past few years though, it seems like my feelings toward men have changed, and, as a result, I'm not really sure where that leaves me or what to make of it--which is why I'm posting this here. Here's the gist of it: Since I was very young (I'm currently in my late 20s), I've been attracted to women. I've had crushes on girls, fantasized about them, dated them, been in love with them, etc. I've never had a crush on a man; been in a relationship with a man; had any sort of sexual experience with a man, no matter how mild; and while I'll check out attractive women when I'm out and about I can't really say I do the same with men (although it happens occasionally). So what's the issue? I sound relatively straight, right? Well, along with all of that has been a steady undercurrent of fantasy that grew to involve men. Originally, women were the main focus in those fantasies, and that evolved into submission to women, which evolved into a mix of men and women, and, over the past few years, that's where it has settled for the most part, though lately I've noticed my fantasies are more likely to involve men than women. The men are never really anyone in particular, meaning I'm not thinking of someone I know or a celebrity I find attractive. Attraction, in fact, is probably the most important thing that seems to have come about as a result of this. I went from not really thinking anything in particular about men to suddenly finding some of them attractive. A good-looking guy takes his shirt off on a TV show I'm watching? I'm not just watching the show, suddenly I'm also... watching him. I may not be outright ogling the men at my gym, but I'll find some male fitness model on Instagram attractive, easily. My dating apps preferences are all set to women, but my fantasies include men, and my choice of porn is often gay. I've never thought of myself as gay, and my whole life has been spent imagining myself ending up with a woman. I don't think I'm gay, but can't deny where I am: I may be attracted to women, but I also find some men physically attractive, and even if I don't exactly imagine myself in a relationship with one (yet, perhaps), I regularly fantasize about them sexually. Not to mention there are also little things that I don't lend too much credence too, but which some people might use as indicators: I dress well and am occasionally mistaken for gay; I wouldn't say I share many of the classically masculine interests; and I have mild interests in traditionally feminine things, though I don't know if I should refer to them as "interests" or just say that I lack the aversion possessed by most men to overtly feminine things. For example, my best friend (female) will often comment on women's fashion, and we'll share our opinions about the same, especially if it involves high heels or nail polish. My friend thinks I should not be concerned with labeling myself and should instead just be me, regardless of what that is. To a certain extent, I agree with her. However, I still have conflicted feelings. I don't think I'm gay, but I feel the conclusion of an average person reading this might be very different. It seems likely that I am bisexual. But looking back over the past decade, it's easy for me to say my sexuality has changed and become less heterosexual. Is it going to keep changing? How do I know? Either that, or it's always been the same, and I've just realized I'm less heterosexual. I'm not sure. It just seems hard if not impossible to sort all of these feelings out. Is this bisexuality? Or am I straight with a weird sexual fetish that has evolved to include men? Or am I just gay? It just seems hard to sort out the truth from all this, especially considering the possibility that to some extent I am in denial. Anyway, what do you think? Has anyone been in a similar situation?