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Bisexual women on lesbian dating sites?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by anna96, May 15, 2017.

  1. anna96

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    I need some lesbian women's perspectives on this one. Is it okay for bisexual/pansexual/queer women to be on a "lesbian" dating site? This is a question and debate I have seen on other forums and I question it myself. Would it be catfish or inappropriate for a woman who is into other women but doesn't identify as lesbian to be on a lesbian dating site? I am soon to be 18, bisexual and thinking of trying online dating if I don't have luck with girls in real life. There aren't a lot of girls at my school my age who are interested in girls and I'm not sure what it will be like when I start college. I've heard some lesbian women are picky about dating a bisexual/pansexual/queer woman if she has been with men before.
     
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    I don't see the problem as long as you are honest. I mean, lesbian dating sites are to meet girls, and sometimes that's what bi women are looking for.
     
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    I identify as bisexual & have used lesbian dating sites before. I'm still a woman seeking another women & that's what lesbian sites specialize in. However in my profile I state that I've only been in relationships with men/recently realised I am bi. If anyone browsing my profile is uncomfortable with that they can scroll on.
     
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    I haven't tested many woman only sites, but the ones I have have just been women-specific, not lesbian specific. There's still a place to enter your orientation just like on a general dating site. Even if the site didn't have that feature, I think it's fine so long as you put it in your profile somewhere.
     
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    I'm disappointed about how many lesbians say "no bisexuals" in their ads.
     
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    I think "lesbian dating sites" aren't actually made just for lesbians but is simply a title used to indicate that this website has been created exclusively for women looking to date other women.

    As a bisexual who prefer women but have been with men in the past, I do not feel like I am catfishing anyone when I join one of those apps. I am not ashamed of my sexuality and I am, indeed, looking to date other women. Women who are willing to write me off simply because of my sexuality aren't women I would be into and want to date anyway, so that's no big deal to me.

    Biphobia is a thing and I have seen it in those apps, but like I said, you wouldn't want to date someone who isn't ready to accept you for who you are and love you for you as a person and not your "gold-star lesbian-like" sexual history.

    I have personally met more bisexuals on those apps than actual lesbians and the few lesbians that I have talked to on those apps were always very accepting as they fully grasped that someone's morals have very little to do with their sexual preferences.
    Give it a go. You have nothing to lose and people who want to judge you, will anyway so go on and test the waters, you never know what may happen. :slight_smile:

    Good luck. x
     
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    Short answer: yes it is more than okay.

    Personally, as a lesbian myself, I look for women who like women, and that encompasses a lot of terms under LGBTQ or how people identify.

    A catfish is usually a man pretending to be a woman. Or you'll even find couples looking for a third. Some are experimenting...others not sure about their sexual orientation.

    Don't miss an opportunity to join a dating site because some lesbians think cheating is exclusive to women who like men as well. It's a terrible mindset and bi phobic and just plain idiocy.