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Bisexual Looking for Friends

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Songful, Aug 17, 2020.

  1. Songful

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    Hello! I’m not sure where to post this, but are there any other bisexuals in their 30s out there who are looking for friends?

    I’m 34, been married to a wonderful man for 12 years, and I have 3 children. After over a decade of struggling to figure myself out and dealing with inner turmoil and denial, I only recently came to the realization that I am bisexual. Other than my husband and anonymous people online, nobody else knows. I don’t really feel like I can share this with anyone other than my husband and other people in the LGBTQ community.

    I’m extremely grateful that my husband has been accepting and kind. We’ve been discussing my sexuality a lot and I think he understands me as much as he can without being bisexual himself. However, I’d like to make some bisexual friends who can better understand me.

    If you also identify as bisexual and you’re looking for friends too, please don’t hesitate to write me. It’s terrible feeling like you’re all alone.
     
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    Hi Songful,

    I can relate to a lot of your situation. Would love to connect/relate :slight_smile:

    TeeSea
     
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    Hi TeeSea! Thanks for your reply!
     
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    I understand where you are coming from and feel for your situation. I am also looking for bi friends, not for sex but for talk, companionship and understanding. Do not get me wrong, sex is a good thing however sex with someone that has taken the time to get to know me is even better. Even in today's more open atmosphere being bi is not seen as such a good thing. That is not so good...
     
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    Of course. I too feel a deep need for interacting with like minded individuals.
     
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    Exactly! I’m just looking for a group of platonic friends that can understand me better and who I can be myself around. It seems like there are plenty of dating or hook-up sites out there, if that’s what someone wants, but there isn’t really much in regard to bisexuals just looking for friendship.

    Thank you, olderwiser, for taking the time to reply. :slight_smile:
     
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    Hi Songful,

    While I may not fit all of your criteria (I'm 28, and at this point in time I wouldn't identify fully as bisexual, though as time goes on I'm starting to think that I am), I'm also new and looking for friends who have been through/are questioning their sexuality (among other things). Being alone does really suck, so if the above discrepancies aren't too off-putting, feel free to write me any time.
     
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    Hi!

    I’m Amz, 28 and a trainee teacher from London, UK. I don’t fit your criteria 100% but I’m around if you want to talk! I know how much is sucks to feel alone! I identified as bisexual for many years but have recently realised I’m actually gay. I know what it’s like to feel like you’re alone and don’t want to go through it anymore or have anyone else go through it!

    Happy to connect!
     
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    Hello, okherewego! Thank you for replying to my post. It took me a long time to figure out my sexuality, so I understand the inner struggle that you may be going through. Please feel free to write me.
     
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    Thank you for your reply, AimLew! You're very kind!
     
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    Looking for new friends too!
     
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    Hey, fellow Bisexual here (33). ^^ I went through that same, irresistible need to find others to commiserate with, too. Not that the whole experience is bad or anything, but when it has its ups and downs, it's nice to be able to talk to someone who can relate, even if only somewhat.

    So if you're looking for a Bi buddy, I'm game. ^^
     
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    Thank you! I appreciate you taking the time to reply to my post.
     
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    Hello everyone! Id love nothing more than to make some friends who understand what Im going through! I am 43, married with 4 grown or nearly grown kids. I lived my entire life as straight until about 3 years ago when I truly had the deep realization that I am pansexual or bisexual...although recently I feel I may actually just be a lesbian after all...long story. Its pretty lonely being in a questioning phase this late in life. Its extremely awkward, scary, yet exciting at the same time to peel back the layers within myself! Anyway, I don't have any friends in the LGBTQ community and thats why I came here! Thank you all for sharing your story and for reading mine :slight_smile:
     
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    Hello, Dreambig77! You're not alone. It's never too late to learn things about yourself. It's good to be introspective and figure yourself out.

    Feel free to post a message on my profile page if you'd like to chat. :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks for replying to my post. Feel free to post a message on my profile page if you'd like to chat.
     
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    Hi @Dreambig77 and welcome to EC.

    As you’ve probably worked out, you’ve come to the right place and there are plenty of people here with similar stories.

    Questioning later in life can be especially hard because you have to rewrite your understanding of who you are and what you may or may not have experienced in the past. So, it can take some time to process and work through, but EC can be a good source of support.

    Now that you have found EC, I hope that you will feel less alone.
     
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    Hey @Songful

    I know maybe you heard this before. But a lot of people in here are facing similar issues and find themselves in these kinds of situations. We are still trying to better understand ourselves and to figure things out . Am here for the network of support these forums and members provide. Reading these threads on these forums has been helpful to me. So yeah here to chat, make friends and and share the complex and sometimes difficult journey that we are on.
     
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    Hello, Bastion! Thank you for taking the time to write to me. In my short time here on this forum, I have found everyone to be kind and helpful. I don’t feel so alone anymore. :slight_smile:
     
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