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Bi or straight?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Dantrash, Jan 15, 2017.

  1. Dantrash

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    Hi, I'm new here:!:lol:
    I have a problem, I have no idea whether I'm straight or bi. I realised a year ago that the thought of having a relationship with a girl made me more excited than uncomfortable, so I figured "oh, I must be bi." After I while I came out to my 3 closest friends and they were super supportive.

    There's one problem though, I don't feel nearly as attracted to women as I do to men. If I could choose between sleeping with a guy or a girl I would definately choose the guy. I don't enjoy lesbian porn either. I'm starting to doubt if I'm even attracted to girls at all, but at the same time I like the thought of kissing and cuddling with a girl. I feel like I came out too soon, I need more time figuring it out!

    Do you guys think I'm straight or bi?:kiss:
     
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    If you do like the idea of kissing/cuddling a girl and are attracted to women, then I would say that you are bisexual with a male preference.
    Give yourself time to figure out your sexuality. This takes a long time. After months of questioning my sexuality I thought I had finally figured it out, only to find myself questioning once again. Good luck!
     
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    Thanks for the answer! It's so hard to say if I'm attracted to girls or not, 'cause I don't really go around and notice hot girls as I do with guys (that sounded a bit creepy, I don't stare at them or stalk them, you know what I meant), but if I text with a cute girl I feel butterflies in my stomach etc. Is it possible to be romantically attracted to a gender and sexually and romantically attracted to another?
     
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    Yes, absolutely! It is entirely reasonable and possible that you are biromantic and heterosexual.
     
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    People sometimes confuse bisexuality with a 50/50 situation where you have to like men and women (or your gender and others) equally. But actually, you can absolutely have a preference for one gender. And as MewDew said, you can also be romantically interested in girls without experiencing sexual attraction towards them.

    Liking the idea of kissing/cuddling a girl doesn't sound like you're completely straight, but it's really hard if not impossible to try to figure out the sexuality of someone from just one post.

    A quick word on lesbian porn: Most lesbian porn is made for straight men, not women who like women. So it's not surprising you don't like it. In general, I don't think porn is a very good indicator for sexual and romantic orientation so I wouldn't pay too much attention to it.

    You can take as much time as you need to figure out your sexuality. You can change your label as often as you need. Since your friends are supportive, you can probably talk to them about this if you think that would help. I know what it's like to question your sexuality and you just want to figure it out now but sometimes it just takes time. You'll figure it out.
     
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    I'm an actual lesbian that also hates lesbian porn. I also know straight women who like lesbian porn but wouldn't sleep with or kiss a girl at all. It doesn't mean much.

    What matters is if you would kiss, date, fall in love with, have sex with, etc girls. If you would do at least one, you're not completely straight. You could be bi but prefer men. Most bisexuals have a gender preferences, it is not 50/50.
     
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    Thank you for all the answers!! Still have a lot of figuring out to do, but this really helped clear my mind. I think the most logical is that I am bisexual but prefers men (as you said above), because even if I worry about not finding girls hot one second, I daydream about marrying girls the other.
    So thanks! It helped! :slight_smile:
     
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