Being a gay nerd

I was going to come in and say that EC has a large community of geek/nerds...but you can pretty much already tell by the amount of responses

The trick on finding LGBT nerdy people like yourself is to be honest about your sexuality to the friends that you meet. Finding nerdy LGBT people might be hard, but doing it from the closet is going to be near impossible.

This came to a surprise to me. I went to a high school that focuses on technology so we had A LOT of geeks and nerds. It was so ridcs that the more preppy people would actually get mocked for not being "weird" enough. It was a strange place. But anyway, in my county my high school was considered the gay mecca. Everyone was pretty much super accepting of everyone.

 

Don't have that much advice, but I am pretty nerdy about a lot of things. So, yes there are gay nerds out there.

 

*waves*

I've been spending too much time on superherohype so I'm definitely a nerd lolol.

ohh tell me how Dragon's Dogma is when you play it. I just got Batman Arkham Asylum like a billion years late...but need to play it before opening Arkham City which I got as a gift last week!

 

I have to admit, I'm a huge gamer. Also an anime freak. Well, at least now we know the nerds are all on EC, explains why they're so hard to find lol.

I actually played it, not a big fan though. It got kind of boring somewhere in the middle, but the fighting was cool.

 

If it helps I'm a the biggest gay geek, but a little of a "diva" as I have been told x) !

 

Well, I love marvel . I like gaming, but who doesn't these days?

Now what I want to find is gay guys whos into Martial arts

 

To be perfectly honest, and maybe it's 'cause I'm not from down south, but I've never really heard of being nerdy meaning you're gay (or vice-versa). It happens, sure, and possibly a little moreso than other "groups" because nerds kind of "accept" those who are different more easily... I think. But still, I don't think the two are directly correlated, and anyone who assumes such a thing just because you play games is probably not worth your time anyway.

 

I see, I read that as "I don't want to tell my friends I do these nerdy things" instead of "I don't want to tell the friends I do nerdy things with I'm gay". My bad xD

Well, only you can really tell if they mean it just to poke fun or if they're seriously being homophobic. But if they're your friends, odds are they'll be accepting... if they weren't, I'm sure there'd probably have been some blatantly obvious warning sign by now.

And if you think they're suspecting, well, it depends on your age but the older you get without going on dates is usually a decent indicator. So what if they do suspect? Maybe it means they're egging you on to just come out already.

 

It's possible. But again, only you really know how they actually feel about the topic. From the sounds of it, they seem pretty okay with it, and the joking is in good fun. There are a ton of reasons they could be making jokes; hinting at you is just one of them.

Ultimately though, if you think they'll be accepting, maybe it's worth seriously considering telling them. I mean, they are your friends, right? But on the other hand, if you aren't comfortable with it yet, then take your time, there's no rush.

It's also quite possible their joking is trying to indicate to you they're cool if you are gay, but they're just going about it the wrong way and inadvertently making you feel awkward. But that's just speculation. :rolle:

 

Interesting lol. This is my major. I'm not really nerdy but I am in IT. This puts a bit of a new perspective on things lol...

 

Hey there, I can totally get where you're coming from.

I'm a big nerd. Basically grew up determined that I'd somehow get into Xaviers institute for gifted youngsters. Huge marvel fan as well as graphic novels in general. I also play magic the gathering as well, and I'm quiet into any fantasy series really. Final Fantasy wa pretty close to a religion for me at one point, and ofc I love kingdom hearts. I could go on and on but basically I fufill all the nerd sterotypes really (apart from amazing non ability in maths)

I'm also not feminine, and looking for a manly guy as well. ( I mean I don't need him to be like weigh lifting while drinking beer with his chainsaw, I want more a quiet masculinity). I get where you're coming from but we're both still young and I think we'll get there in the end, if not theres lots of cats that need a home.

 

There's an entire subreddit dedicated to gay gamers, I'm pretty sure.

You're by no means alone.

 

You'll definitely find a lot of gay nerds on the internet, because this is our hangout space!

I know how you feel, but you just need to live life and things will happen.

 

If they're bugging you about it, coming out is easy. Just agree with them. "Yeah... So? Is that going to be a problem?"

Nerdy geeky type people, in my experience, are pretty accepting of other peoples quirks. And they are usually smart enough, and interested enough in science, to understand sexuality as being biological.

My guess would be that they just think you should get out more. Like, on dates and stuff. Cause they don't know that you have, cause you aren't telling them about the guys you've been seeing.

It doesn't sound like they are malicious jokes.

If they suspected you were gay, and they had a problem with it, I don't think this is how they would act. So they are either clueless, or they are fine with the possibility that you are gay. Since a 22 year old who doesn't even try to get with girls has probably raised their suspicions at least a little, my guess would be that they are fine with it.

(Important trade secret: when you admit to being gay, this kind of teasing is no longer effective at all. It loses all it's power as something to make fun of you about. And most importantly, it's no longer funny.)

Here's what I think you should do. Come out to your gaming buddies. Then, you will have a core group of people to establish a regularly meeting group with, and you can make fliers and place ads like this:

I think my massive collection of science fiction and fantasy books probably qualifies me for nerdom. My social group tends to be nerdy geeky types too, many of whom are interested in comics and gaming. That includes pretty much ALL of my male friends, and some of the girls, too. Definitely, all my friends tend to think that comics and gaming are valid adult interests, even if they aren't very into it themselves. I'm always mildly shocked when people have a problem with it. I think of comics and gaming as "stuff that all the guys I know are really into, and that the girls I know mostly think is mildly interesting." Sort of like mundane people think about sports, or something, maybe.

Something maybe of more interest to your friends than to you: nerdy girls tend to have slightly different interests than nerdy guys, generally speaking. If, on behalf of your straight friends, you want to attract some geeky females, you might want to mention fan fiction, science fiction and fantasy novels (the kind in words, as opposed to graphic novels), and maybe specifically Harry Potter. (I'm not kidding about Harry Potter. I think all of my geeky female friends, gay and straight, have a significant interest in Harry Potter.) It's just like with porn: the guys want visual stuff, like comics and video games, and the girls like written stuff better. (That's all statistical, and not universal, obviously.)