on camp, I got to know a girl in my grade heaps better and I think I've kinda fallen for her. She's physically beautiful and more importantly, her personality, humourous persona AND HER SMILE MY GOD those things tugged at my heart strings. We talked so much about everything when I got the rare chance. she's just so perfect. I gave everyone hugs every night JUST to hug her especially. I always gave her my best hugs. She's in the popular group at school but we have a small connection. I guess I don't know what to do at this point. I've had things for girls in the past but i never went further than admiring.
The same thing happened to me with a guy I worked with when I was in my 20’s. Unfortunately he was straight. It broke my heart. For me that was the thing that told me I was gay. I think unrequited love is a curse that a lot of gay people suffer.
She has a boyfriend in the grade below OOF. She and I have had a couple moments where we just looked into each other's eyes without saying anything really. I treastre those things. but I am kinda convinced shes as straight as spaghetti.
I think for most gay (or bisexual) people, it's always safest to assume someone of the same sex is straight. Of course, there's no problem with wishing that there's an odd chance of them reciprocating the love you have for them. But to protect your own heart, it's best to assume she's straight. I'd say get to know her more and see if there's any other subtle signs of interest. Of course, if she's a touchy-feely kind of person, many of the things that she says/does could easily be misinterpreted as romantic interest. I know it's very confusing and heart-wrenching but like I said, it's best to assume she's straight.
Crush on a straight person or queer in denial is a curse indeed... Even so OP, we have little control over our feelings. I don't think there's no need to be so scared about it since it's just part of life. Why not try to find out if she's lgbt friendly, if not into girls? If you feel safe doing so.
I suggest that you should get a friendship with her at first. Just bring up the topic about LGBTQ+ and ask how she feels about us. If she’s a homophobic then just let go of that crush. There’s always the perfect one out ther for you eventually. LOVE YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE.#️
awesome reply, I am feeling a bit more confident! one thing though... I'm not super close to her, we say the occasional friendly 'Hi.' RARELY THO VENT TIME: at school, I see her almost all the time with her friends and I smile and want her to notice me, sometimes it works and she looks at me and continues walking oof big rip... uhhhh I saw her in town today and we shared hellos I really like her ( I don't know if I can say 'love' because I'm not sure if that's what it is or not ) and I want to do so many things to catch her attention and make me stand out but I'm too shy and my goals are always too high to physically nor mentally reach she's so beautiful and so so so friendly to everyone. she's p e r f e c t . MORAL: I don't feel like I can get close enough to her to ask her opinions on the LGBTQ community... nor do I think I could ever start hanging out with her at her house or in town together. i would never fit in with their group, i would be the quiet one at the back. EXCITING NEWS: this weekend, I'm going to my friend's house to "hang out". Okay, I lied. Her mum's a counsellor and i'm actually going to talk to her about my sexuality and advice for this topic plus a few other things. my mum would never tolerate me if I dated a girl. And I wrote this instead of doing homework soooo mmm >
Good idea, sometimes the moms of friends are easier to talk with than Mom herself. Good luck with that. Love this.
So, you just joined! Good for you, Max Is there anything you need advice on? Perhaps I can supply that advice :3
wHAT. your dad said that?? hmm, that's not good at all. I say, let him say what he wants, let him have his own opinion, as everybody is entitled to their own. Just don't let it get to you. If you are happy with how you are, then so be it. You're strong. don't let others' opinions change your own.