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are you in the closet or out the closet

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Tigermud, Jun 5, 2018.

  1. noahjerich

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    Not out at all.. I've had gay feelings ever since middle school, and I'm now just realizing and accepting the fact that I'm gay (I just finished my first year of college). I want to come out to a few of my close friends, but I'm not sure how to or when to do it.
     
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    Sooo in... My family suspects it but I'm too scared to come out to my best friend because I think she might not see me as the same person anymore and she might start to avoid me.... I don't know :/ I feel like I will be rejected by everyone..
     
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    Not "everyone" will reject you. We have this problem with exaggerating. It will go good or bad. Even if it goes bad there's always someone who will stand up for you.
     
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    I'm an innie not an outie, haha
     
  5. Chierro

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    Some friends know, my immediate family knows (including my sister's fiancé), and I guess who ever sees my profile on apps. I guess I'm kind of at a point where I don't care as much who knows, I just don't feel like sitting down and having the awkward conversation of "So, yeah, I'm gay." I just had my yearly physical and I was really happy my doctor didn't ask if I'm sexually active cause then I'd have to tell the truth and he goes to my church and that'd have just been weird.
     
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    Out to friends and a family member and other lgbt people about my sexuality. But, out only to friends about gender.
     
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    I am very open about my sexuality, but not with my gender identity. I am, however, very wary of telling people that I am attracted to both sexes because it has led to me being targeted by sexual predators (on and offline), and can lead to some incredibly awkward conversations. Like I have even lost other LGBT+ friends because they assumed I was attracted to them when I wasn't. I do not bring up anything LGBT+ related around my family as they are extremely homophobic, but they are well-aware of my sexuality.
     
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    my husband knows that i am bisexual, a few close friends and that is about it. i am slowly making this part of me more well known by dropping hints here and there and it feels better than i thought it would!
     
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    I'm in with regards to family, but out with some friends/co-workers as bi. I mean if they dont ask, I dont really have to say it. But I'm boyish so they probably knew already.
     
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    Half in, half out.
     
  11. noahjerich

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    update: I just came out to 3 of my close friends tonight! They were so accepting and it didn't change how they viewed me at all! I'm so glad I did it.
     
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    Sexuality - I'm pretty open that I'm LGBT because I always wear rainbow bracelets. But only some friends know that I'm asexual.
    Gender - I'm still closeted. I don't plan to be openly trans until I graduate high school.
     
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    Not even close to out. I am thinking about telling my gay guy friend, but he has personal problems of his own that I don't want to burden him with.
     
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    Pretty much out except for certain people at work.

    The unfortunate reality of working in politics is you have to be guarded around some people about your personal life.
     
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    Came out 13 years ago and it was ok for a while... then went back in for various reasons while abroad and since coming back home. Not planning to be so open again :frowning2:
     
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    I am out to everybody in my life that is close like family and friends . As far as any stranger is concerned I am a cis male and they don’t need to know I am trans.
     
  17. Out late

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    Partly out, Out to my siblings and some friends, more each week it feels.
    Not yet out to my parents, which I hope to change next week, because I'm dating a man now and feel it might get serious.
    Not out at work yet either.
     
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    Out to my friends, my school, and my brother thus far. Planning on coming out to my cousins and my sisters as soon as we’re all in one place again. Not out to parents or extended family (e.g, aunts/uncles/grandparents).

    I’ve got a plan for coming out to my parents, but I won’t be ready to use it for quite some time. As far as the extended family goes, I’m pretty sure I’ll come out to them the same way my straight cousins did: by bringing my partner around for Christmas.
     
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