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Are bottoms more feminine?

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by AaronMed, Jul 21, 2014.

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Is it unusual to be more masculine but also be the bottom?

  1. Yes, it's peculiar.

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  2. Kinda.

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  3. Not really.

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  4. No, it's totally normal.

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  1. AaronMed

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    My boyfriend and I have been together for six months and I'm definitely the more masculine partner. But I'm also the bottom. Is that unusual?
     
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    No, thats totally fine dude, masculinity has nothing to do with how you want to have sex
     
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    The two have no correlation. Nothing odd at all.
     
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    Top, bottom or versatile, all it means is you know what feels good to you. Nothing else.
     
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    Nah, that's totally fine. There are feminine tops and masculine bottoms everywhere :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I bottom more than my boyfriend. A lot more. And i'm the more masculine one out of the two of us.
     
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    No (unless you're one of those people who sees bottoming as a "feminine" or womanly act).
     
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    I meant to put "not really", (using my moms phone still haven't found my charger screen is smaller) I think it just comes down to the preference of that person. I know that being a top can be exhausting .I AM NOT SEXUALLY ACTIVE. So I assume bottoming would be a lot easier than topping.
     
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    Since much of the pleasure from bottoming comes from prostate stimulation and women don’t have a prostate how can bottoming seem feminine?
     
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    There is no link between masculinity and topping. Everyone just likes what they likes. If I was a man, I would be femme and a bottom, but that's not how it has to be.
     
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    No not at all I'm the more masculine in the relationship and I'm the one that often bottoms
     
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    No, as other's said it's completely normal. Being masculine or feminine in personality, identity, or characteristics in no way has any connection to topping or bottoming. To drive the point home, there are Drag Queens out there who only top.

    This type of mindset is based on hetero-centric thinking, and the belief that if you bottom that you are "the woman" in the relationship or that you are somehow emasculated. None of this is true.

    There are super macho testosterone-leaking-from-the-pores guys out there who are exclusive bottoms. Just as there are super feminine guys who are exclusive tops.

    The reality of most gay relationships though, is that most people are versatile to some degree. In situations where someone is primarily a top or bottom it's either because of preference or habit. Preference is obvious, but in situations where it's habit it's just because that's how things washed out. It's kinda like discovering that when you stop to think about it, you're almost always having sex in one position or another, usually because it's the most comfortable and what you're familiar with. It helps to sometimes take notice of habits like this and switch things up a bit.
     
  13. Fallingdown7

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    No, It's a very heteronormative stereotype. Also bottoming isn't submissive either. I see plenty of masculine, dominant bottoms, and feminine, submissive tops.
     
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    Personally it's a turn on when a more masculine guy is the one who bottoms.
     
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    I workout, play/watch sports, dress on the more douche-ish side. So I sorta fall into the masculine stereotypes. My friends consider me to be the straightest gay they've ever met. But when it comes to the bedroom, I'm a versatile bottom.
    I was recently with a guy, who was feminine in most aspects. Guess who bottomed?
    I took it like a champ and enjoyed every second of it.

    So NO it is perfectly fine to be taking it down there and be masculine.
    Besides, people see that taking it up the butt is more masculine than giving it.
     
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    There are some very strong and masculine guys who bottom exclusively... and they know exactly what they like and want from the top. If you end up topping for these guys you'll need a fair bit of stamina and you'll soon realise that bottoming doesn't mean femininity.
     
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    Maybe it is more commmon but not necessary by any means.

    I think it is better to stop categorizing people, I would go as far as saying that in my opinion there is not such a thing as a bottom or a top. We are all gay men for sure. Bottom and top are verbs, not nouns, in my book.