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Anyone identify as homosexual but been able to masturbate to opposite gender?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Confuseddude, Jan 29, 2017.

  1. Confuseddude

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    Hi guys,

    Not talking about porn here! I know it's rarely a good indication of ones sexuality. But what about fantasies, what about masturbating purely to the thoughts in your head. Does anyone identify as homosexual but finds it equally as satisfying/enjoyable to masturbate thinking of the opposite sex? I think I'm bisexual, I mean I definitely am bisexual in some way but I'm always 'scared' that I'm misjudging some of the thoughts in my head. My real life experiences haven't always lined up with the ones in my head.
     
  2. Chip

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    Fantasies are generally pretty reliable. If you find that fantasies about men and women are equally arousing, then that's a pretty good indicator that you're bisexual.

    It's also possible that as you embrace acceptance of your attraction to guys, that your attraction to women will diminish. A lot of people early in the stages of self-acceptance have found this to be the case, though it's by no means true for everyone.

    It is a challenge getting out of your head and into your psyche, and it's hard to separate what our conscious mind wants for us (no one wants to be gay) and what our hard wiring is telling us. I think the best plan is to just take what you're experiencing and give it time.
     
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    Thanks for the useful input chip!
    I always wondered whether embracing my homosexual side would make the heterosexual side diminish. Having had sex with guys a few times and freely masturbating to thoughts of the same nature (rather than the 'testing' rituals that I used to engage in) it doesn't seem to make the blind bit of difference. Still a way to go in terms of acceptance thoufh