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Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Jlan3825, Apr 25, 2021.

  1. Jlan3825

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    Anyone on, i need to talk?
     
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    If you are having an immediate emergency then calling someone closer is more practical there is a thread here for that sort of support
    https://forum.emptyclosets.com/index.php?threads/resources-for-miscellaneous-topics.313236/

    If you need to discuss personal issues with someone then due to you not being a full member yet you can only message the admins and such, here is a list of who helps with what issues. (you could write directly to someones wall but then you have to wait until they read it for them to answer and they may not log in for a while).
    https://forum.emptyclosets.com/index.php?threads/individual-support.479111/

    If you have a less immediate need and a regular discussion will help then you could simply answer with what your current issue is and someone can answer when they are logged on. Unfortunately due to the nature of a forum answers usually do not come in real time the way a phone call or a chat room can do or like conversations in real life.
     
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    I’m here if you need someone to talk to.:hearts:
     
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    I love knowing i am bi, but i am feeling selfish wanting both sexes, but i am way beyond the point where im wanting sex with a man and straight sex only helps very short term. Each month that goes by gets more and more difficult and i dont know how much longer i can take it. The pleasures provided by each are way too different. I think this is one time where i envy straight and gay people.
     
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    I cannot think of any specific advice on how to get over that feeling. I think that so long as you are open and honest with the people who you date casually or are in relationships with that there is nothing wrong with having more than one partner (just make sure that whatever you do that you are being safe). My thinking this way is probably largely due to the fact that since my teen years that I have been open to the idea of polyamory.

    I also think that so long as you are not taking advantage of or hurting others that taking care of your own needs (being selfish) is fine.
     
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    I was going to suggest the same thing. Possibly trying polyamory.
     
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    What you said makes lots of sense. Ive had a couple of offers and i am definitely leaning towards going for it. I think i would have to go with someone that i dont have a strong atttraction to just to avoid the possibility of making an emotional connection.
     
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    If that is what you prefer then go for it, I understand that is how a lot of people are. Myself I cannot do that, I am demisexual and even though I have been pressured into and have tried casual sex I have found that for me it is worse than being alone.
     
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    Well that plan went out the window, the guy i am messaging is gorgeous. He wants to take me out and make love to me afterwards depending on how the date goes. I am beyond excited!
     
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    Good luck and be safe. I hope things go well for you.
     
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    Thanks i have butterflies lol.
     
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    Update us when you’ve had the date! I’m so happy for you compared to where you were earlier!