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Anybody else too scared to have sex?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by GayBatman, Sep 23, 2016.

  1. Ruinbow

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    definitely. i'm scared that i'll be really awkward and turn the person off. I have no experience at all, and I think I have a fear of being in a relationship.
     
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    It sort of scares me too; though it's mostly a sense of discomfort, possibly dysphoria (but that's just me). I have no experience with sex, and I'm still pretty insecure about some parts of it, so I think the fear is natural.

    But I guess at the moment it doesn't affect me too much because I'm really not too interested in sex at present day.
     
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    I'm not scared of sex but it's slowly becoming uninteresting to me.
     
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    Having studied biochemistry, I became pretty nervous about sexually transmitted diseases and infections rather than sex itself. Recent news stated that some Gonorrhea strains may soon become resistant to all available drugs.
     
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    For me as a girl, i'm scared I won't know what to do. I've heard it's nothing like what you see in porn, and sex education for lesbians it's worse than it is for guys. I feel like i'd need to be in a relationship with someone who knew what the hell they were doing TBH
     
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    well, it's not sex itself I'm afraid of.

    I've got this weird fear of going soft during sex. and now im even more scared of it cuz i goggled it and it turned out to be a real thing.

    i screamed. a lot. especially cuz i have no experience
     
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    These are my exact thoughts as well lol.
     
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    yeah, I'm terrified to even cuddle, so I can image sex would be even more terrifying. But....I'm not asexual, I like sex ��
    But honestly I don't think I'd be able to get to the point of doing something that counts as sex cos wearing a binder just isn't enough to make me forget about my chest. Maybe in the future when I'm further into my transition I'll be able to do it?
     
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    I am. I'm scared of opening myself up that much to another person. I'm afraid that I won't do it right, and they'll hate it. I've never even kissed or dated someone. I want to, but I'm scared.
     
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    I am also scared. I've had sex before but the thought of doing it again terrifies me. Opening up is a terrifying prospect.
     
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    Yeah because I have PTSD from sexual abuse. I fear it very much now because I'm easily triggered and have had so many bad experiences.
     
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    I wouldn't say that I'm "scared", but I am apprehensive and anxious about it. There is a reason why I am a 25-year-old virgin. I've never even been in a relationship. I have some aversion to intimacy in general.
     
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    This has been on my mind so much lately. Thoughts like "what if I forget the basics lessons of human anatomy?" or "what if I am actually the worst". It's really scary knowing that'll be something I do one day
     
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    I was abused and it probably affected the way how I see sex.
    not having a sex drive is a separate thing. also, it's just painful to me.
     
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    yeah haha my anxiety already gets in the way of everything else so why not that too eh?
     
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    Similar to this actually.

    Plus, when I was younger, I had sex with my then girlfriend who I really did love. However, having sex with her felt - to me - that I was kinda taking advantage of her body, if that makes any sense.
    Now I don't really bother with it. If it happens, fine. If it don't, oh well.
     
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    Same. I've never come anywhere close to having sex with anyone. I don't trust anyone or have enough of a desire for the people that I do know enough to do it. The thought of actually having sex with someone is just scary to me. It's not a huge part of relationships to me anyway. Maybe I'm just old fashioned, I don't know.
     
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    I'm not scared of having sex and I have no issues having sex with someone I don't know as well. I am scared, however, of being used for sex. I worry that people will only use me as some kind of sex object because of my sexuality and that they won't deem me worthy of dating/serious relationship because of my identity.
     
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    I'm pretty scared to have sex because I don't really trust men, and I'm demisexual anyway. I'm always afraid my health will be compromised in some way or something will go awry, but I wouldn't engage in it unless I'm truly in love, and that may never actually happen for me.
     
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    I'm not scared of sex and it's nice but I'm more interested in having a romantic relationship. I just love hugs, cuddles, anything regarding affection.