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Any Gay guys used to be attracted to women?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Tim9788, Jul 25, 2020.

  1. Spatula

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    I went through this and I know others who went through this. It can be a real trip.

    I totally disagree that porn is meaningless. Porn allows you to passively experience attractions that might be suppressed normally due to anxiety and hangups. If you remove the anxiety and hangups from the other areas of your life you will likely find those attractions flourish there too. It is weird. I remember finding women intoxicating and men repulsive in my early teens and slowly shifting over time. If you'd told 13 year old me that my longest relationship and love of my life would be a guy, I'd never have believed it. But that's life. Sometimes attractions end up not working the straightforward way you thought they would.
     
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    Hi Tim,

    A lot of people who identify as "straight" watch same-sex porn. One way to explain it is that people like to watch the same kind of stimulation that they find themselves pleasing. For example: lesbian porn is mostly about presenting clitoral stimulation which is enjoyable to people who have clitoris, while people who don't will usually quickly loose interest. It is well established that straight guys (that is cis-heterosexual men to be more precise) usually don't enjoy lesbian porn, ("the never ending foreplay") despite all the pretty girls in it. They usually seek more gratifying genres including at least one male actor and visible ejaculation. Now, the gay porn has all the stimulation that is enjoyable to men: both penis and anal stimulation multiplied by the number of guys onscreen and powered up by submission/domination theme which lots of people find arousing too. This is possibly Earth's most powerful porn.

    For this I'd like you to consider two things:
    - First - already mentioned here: the way any porn works on your brain is pretty much the same as drugs or booze, because it's a psychoactive substance (albeit virtual one). This means you can abuse it or even get addicted, so please take care. Since you report that using porn has already affected your life in a negative way, a period of abstinence would be recommended, at least until you sort your things out. Remember that real life relationships are more important than the kick. And real life sex with someone close and loving is far healthier to you in long term, even if it's less exciting.
    - Second - the good news is that you cannot condition your sexual orientation. For bad or for worse watching years worth mountain of gay porn DVDs and wildly masturbating to it will never turn anyone gay. Even if they push boundries and have sex with men this does not make them gay. Straight guys remain straight no matter what, though they are often confused as of why they enjoy such content and sometimes even entertain same-sex fantasies despite filing numb to same-sex in real life.

    If you feel the above reasoning suits you and you want to identify as a straight guy then it's alright to do so.
    If you don't feel right about "straight" label because you think that there is more to it than just gay porn then let's talk about Klein Grid and bisexuality.
     
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    I been looking at girls for more years that most you been alive....I still look
    But finally realized why, I am envious of the way they look.
     
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    When i saw the first time porn my first reaction was mehhh until today i dont like it.I cant explain why but it feels weird when i see a man suck a dick or fucked by somebody .Im aroused from lesbian porn but most of the time i dont watch it because it will be to boring.Ths important think is the Dopamin hit.I start with young years with normal naked pictures and ended up with really dirty shit. I wanted more to get an higher orgasm.Porn is a really dangerous think and now i know why is that only allowed for people over 18.That is a reason why porn is not an indicator.You triggered me because you said that you was suddenly attracted to somebody.What do you thought about that ?
     
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    Leynz, your issue is OCD. It has nothing to do with anything other than OCD. Could you please, please stop commenting on every post about anyone trying to determine their sexual orientation, and relating it to your own situation, which has nothing to do with sexual orientation and is a byproduct of a mental health disorder? I know you are suffering, but you aren't helping either yourself or anyone else with these constant posts asking essentially the same questions.
     
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    To back off what Chip said (and not to delay the conversation here, Leynz, you have OCD just like I do. Your OCD is getting in the way and not allowing you to clearly think. I'd also suggest to lay off porn for a while. It's being used as a compulsion and fuels the OCD.
    Secondly about this conversation, I can relate but flip the genders. (I also currently identify as bisexual). For the longest time I was primarily attracted to guys for a few years because I pushed my feelings for women down to fit in and "be normal", but after falling in love with a woman this year, those feelings hit me hard in the face. I'm unsure where my attraction lies now with be attracted to men and women because I have been dealing with some mental health issues.