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Another new guy

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Pattern, Mar 15, 2019.

  1. Pattern

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    So yeah, another new guy. A little about me, I'm married, to a woman. Have been for over 25 years. I started getting interested in guys and.one thing led to another and I've had some opportunities. To be completely honest, I'm not sure what I want.to do from here . Just thought I would browse and chat to help with the issues
     
  2. Hawk

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    Welcome to EC, Pattern. :gay_pride_flag:
    I hope you find what you're looking for here. There are plenty of people in the same situation as yourself. You may find some like-minded people in the LGBT Later in Life sub-forum.
    If you have any questions or concerns about anything on the forums, please don't hesitate to ask either myself or another member of staff.

    Hope to see you around. :slight_smile:
     
  3. RJH

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    Gosh, I'm right here with you. I finally took the plunge; left my wife after 30 years (we were married really young). I can't believe I stayed with her as long as I did. I let her do whatever she wanted because, based on my religious upbringing, I just couldn't face being gay. I worked 2 jobs, no kids, and she had a shopping addition and would get credit cards without telling me and just go crazy buying stuff. I was not "allowed" to get the mail -- so I wouldn't see the bills they kept sending, or all the stuff she was buying on E-bay.
     
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    Best thing I ever did, though. When the divorce is final, I will have control of my own finances! Eventually we adopted kids, but she was so mean to the girl that she tried to commit suicide. She moved in with a friend from school -- thank God! I still stayed with the bitch. I hope my daughter will forgive me one day.
     
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    Thanks, I'll watch my language!
     
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    Welcome. They are many married folks (and those who were) on the site.
     
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    Welcome to the community! It's good that you have joined and are trying to understand yourself better. That's an important step already. I'm sure you will be able to strike some conversations with members who have similar experiences, and are willing to share their stories and provide some insights on what has worked for them. Sometimes, just writing out your thoughts can help to provide some clarity. Welcome! :slight_smile:
     
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    Thank you