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Am I wrong to refuse to show my face on social media?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Joe2001, Jan 31, 2019.

  1. Joe2001

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    An FB friend has kept pressuring me in conversations to show my face. I don't use my face as my profile picture and earlier tonight, he was browbeating me into sending him a picture of my face.

    I don't like to use my face on any forum or social media for privacy reasons. It just makes me uncomfortable.

    Am I wrong to refuse this? This guy has been difficult before and I no longer feel at ease.
     
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    If you don't feel comfortable, then you don't need to do it. Just politely say that to the person, like "Hey, I understand what you are saying, but I just don't feel comfortable showing my face.".

    If the person doesn't respect that, then I don't think it is worth maintaining a conversation with that person. It's your face, your privacy, and that needs to be respected.
     
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    I've done that. On previous occasions, he eventually let it go but really browbeated me into it tonight.

    I think that may be the last I'll see of him then.

    Thanks for your help.
     
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    No problem! :slight_smile:

    If he keeps insisting on it, then he isn't respecting you, and it is worth considering if this conversation is worth it.
     
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    You're not wrong. Lots of people don't show their face for various reasons. Its no big deal.
     
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    First congratulate yourself on sticking to your values and boundaries. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting privacy and not wanting your face out there on social media. You are in the minority, as Facebook has tried its best to convince everyone that there's no need whatsoever for any privacy. (Mark Zuckerberg doesn't, however, believe this, as he bought all the houses around his house to have more privacy.) But privacy can be really important, and controlling, to the extent you can, how your images are used, and where they go, is a good plan.

    So... if someone simply can't respect your boundaries, that isn't someone you want as a friend.
     
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    First congratulate yourself on sticking to your values and boundaries. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting privacy and not wanting your face out there on social media. You are in the minority, as Facebook has tried its best to convince everyone that there's no need whatsoever for any privacy. (Mark Zuckerberg doesn't, however, believe this, as he bought all the houses around his house to have more privacy.) But privacy can be really important, and controlling, to the extent you can, how your images are used, and where they go, is a good plan.

    So... if someone simply can't respect your boundaries, that isn't someone you want as a friend.
     
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    I only have one social media account and I don’t show my face on there.
    I post pictures of nature mostly.

    There’s no reason for anyone to pressure you into showing your face and without more info this person sounds creepy.
    Good for you sticking up for yourself.
     
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    Personally, I show my face on social media because I feel comfortable doing so. If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it.

    I will say, though, that the way I normally operate with seeing a guy's face is if I have any intention to meet him in real life (assuming I met him online), I will want to see his face before meeting. This normally applies to apps for me, of course, but it also can be applicable to social media.

    Obviously I don't know your friendship with this guy, but if you are interested in meeting this guy someday, I would recommend considering the idea, but ultimately if you're not comfortable doing so...don't. Make it perfectly clear to him how you feel about this and if he can't respect it, cut him loose. Friends respect boundaries not push them.
     
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    No
    I don't think so. No one has the right to pressure you into doing anything.
     
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    Thanks to all for your advice.

    I am uncomfortable and from what people are saying, he isn't respecting what I want. Probably time to cut ties with him, but I feel as I have no other choice but to keep talking to him just because I don't really have friends in real life.
     
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    If your whole friendship was based on profile pictures (or lack thereof), it probably wasn't a very strong friendship. A good friend would respect your decision and privacy. I generally don't upload a photo of myself anywhere, and the photos that do exist are pretty old. And I've never had anyone ask me to add a real picture of myself.
     
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    You're welcome, Joe.