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Am I Racist?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by alainbeaux, Apr 14, 2017.

  1. Andrew99

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    No! You are not a racist and shouldn't let people make you think you are and shame you because of your preferences.
    Everyone has preferences, some people are honest about having preferences towards themselves and others while some people simply deny it.

    I don’t even know where to start here.

    Having white straight teeth is a sign of health whereas black crooked teeth aren’t healthy teeth.
    Being morbidly obese or anorexic is a sign of illness whereas a normal body type doesn’t indicate that something is wrong or unhealthy.
    See the pattern. Humans on average are attracted to health for obvious evolutionary reasons.
    You seem to forget that sex drive is an instinct, a reproductive instinct that exists to guaranty the survival of the species.
    It has been shown in studies that the waist-hip ratio of women for example plays a part in how attractive a potential straight male partner might find them.
    Reproduction/mating are by nature selective. And nature doesn’t care or follow the rules of political correctness nor society.

    Society doesn’t dictate people whom they find attractive and whom they don’t find attractive.
    People can’t pick and choose to find someone attractive or not attractive. It doesn't work like that.
    Blaming everything that doesn’t fit into a certain worldview or that one doesn’t like on society or an “oppressive system” that doesn’t even exist in the western world has become a popular sport these days but it doesn’t make it the truth.

    Do I read some resentment against white men here? xD
     
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    being a racist doesn't have anyhting to do with whom you're attracted to. sexual attraction isn't about your mindset, beliefs or prejudices. if you're not attracted to asians nd blacks it's becasue of how they look individually and not how you see them as a group. after all being attracted to only one sex doesn't make someone a sexist, right? i bet racists can be attracted to the races they despise the same way male-chauvinists can be attracted to women without even experiencing cognitive dissonance noticing any contradiction. they're jsut completely unrelated. i think whites tend to be the least attractive to me but i'm white myself and of course have nothing against whites or any race or ethnicity
     
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    Ooh...tricky subject.

    So here's the thing: people are not naturally Xist (racist, misogynist, misandrist, homophobic, transphobic, etc.) . They are taught by society that they grow up in what is considered "good" or "bad." So yes, you growing up in a part of society where you're not exposed to people of color could be a part of it. Heck, I grew up in an environment just like yours (surrounded by white people), but it doesn't automatically give you a free pass to just being attracted to just white people.

    That being said...I don't consider you racist...yet. IF you fetishized me because you saw me and automatically I assumed I was a bottom twink who had a "soft body" and "smelled nice" (btw, those are legit things somebody messaged me on a certain gay hookup app about two days ago), or [heaven help you] you wanted me to "eat your eggroll", then that would make you racist. IF you thought that all black men were "thugs" or "lowlifes", with enormous phalluses, that would make you racist. It doesn't help that the more professional porn studios (i.e. studios that have websites and hire people, as opposed to people who simply post videos a la YouTube) tend to focus on the white body, and decide that the only gay asian people who belong in porn need to be "long haired muscleless twinks" or that black men need to be these "grunting thugs with giant flagpoles".

    Honestly, I think PatrickUK's got it down: don't exclude people just because they're a certain ethnicity. There's a crap ton of us, and to exclude us is...yeah. Maybe it's not that you're "not into blacks and asians", but it's just that you have yet to find a black or asian person you're sexually attracted to.

    Also...blame American/white media about the whole skin tone thing. If you look at the whole colonization process of places like India, Vietnam, and the Philippines, there's a whole "colonial mentality" process due to being colonized by white people that says that paler skin is better (because being paler back then meant you weren't treated as badly). It's good that you're questioning if you're racist, because this can prevent you from actually becoming one.

    Imagine you're perfect mental person. Like, he just gets you. He makes you smile, you make him smile, and all that lovey-dovey tween vampire romance novel BS. Now...imagine that he's black or asian or blasian or some other ethnicity you don't necessarily feel sexually attracted to. Does that change anything? Should that change anything?