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Am I lesbian or bisexual?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by LindseyF123, Apr 12, 2015.

  1. LindseyF123

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    Okay so I've pretty much ruled out being straight. I've never kissed anyone or had sex. I think I'm bi because I find boys and girls attractive. But whenever I watch porn, seeing two girls makes me more aroused than a girl and boy (it still does, just not as much). I feel like sex with a boy would be uncomfortable and make me feel small and trapped. And I would rather kiss a girl than a boy (my first kiss at least), so I think I might be lesbian. I've had a few boyfriends but the relationships were always awkward and didn't last long. I don't talk about my sexuality with anyone so everyone just assumes I'm straight, so I won't be able to experiment unless I come out as something, but I don't know what I am!! So darn confusing... Any piece of advice would help me a lot.:icon_redf
     
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    Well are you attracted to both men and women in the same way? I mean, you can find guys attractive without wanting to be with them, like you can like a piece of clothing without wanting to hook up with it (obviously lol).
    I think you should take a break from thinking, or at least try, and see how things works out. It usually helps to let time figure things out :slight_smile:
     
  3. Ortensia

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    A useful question to ask might be- can I see myself in a relationship with a guy in the same way as a girl? It's one thing to find them attractive, but another to feel a physical and emotional connection with them. But, my advice would be not to let yourself be bogged down too heavily with labels. They don't define you, they're just a way of describing you. Don't worry too much about labelling yourself now- sooner or later it should become clearer what you want.

    Hope that helps x
     
  4. LindseyF123

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    Thank you both for your advice. I truly appreciate it! :3