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Am I Gay or Bisexual?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by MemphisRapFan, Mar 30, 2013.

  1. MemphisRapFan

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    I have really been questioning this for the past while and it bothered me to the point that I'll ask here. I know that the obvious answer would just be "get laid and find out". I've been told that I'm good looking but that's out of the question for now due to acne (on medication right now for the 4th time but as usual it's not helping). The following will be nsfw since I will end up being vulgar.

    I considered myself bisexual for quite a while, but now I have a feeling that I might not even be that. I always had crushes on women, even more than with dudes. Still, I can never imagine myself being intimate with a woman simply because vaginas are the grossest thing ever. In fact, once I watched a closeup of one being fingered and I felt really nauseous. While on the other hand, I can stare at pics of cocks for hours. Basically my preference seems to be with futas, or chicks with dicks. I noticed that whenever I have a crush on a woman I keep imagining to myself how awesome would be if she did have a dick. Also with the porn I watched, even when I considered myself to be straight, it was always only bj porn.

    Is there any way for me to find out what my sexuality is right now or do I have to wait until I get laid to see? I'm just worried that if I do try to get laid, I'll end up feeling nauseous again and will back out, which will lead to a very awkward and depressing experience. Also this really is a mindfuck to me, and when that usually happens I always try to solve it.
     
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    Well, I can't tell you what your sexual orientation is, but I can toss out my opinion.

    Personally, you appear to be homosexual, but biromantic. This means that you are sexually attracted to men, but you could see yourself having a romantic relationship with either binary gender. So you can be attracted to women, sans the sex.

    However, society tends to put a huge emphasis on sex in a relationship, so it may be easier to simply refer to yourself as gay. Though I can't speak for you, and in the end you should just choose what feels comfortable and describes you.
     
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    You appear to be pansexual in a way. It sounds like your preference is pre-transitioned male to female transgenders, which is really cool :slight_smile: But you sound like a biromantic homosexual-pansexual. Wow! Thats a lot of labels! :grin:
     
  4. MemphisRapFan

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    Thanks for the input guys. But I'll be honest, the biromantic homosexual-pansexual label sounds quite contradictory. How can one be homosexual and pansexual at the same time? It looks like after a while of thinking the only solution is to find a woman that would be willing to let me check if I'm gay or not. The trouble will be finding one that's willing to do that.
     
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    It's not just about sex.. It's about desire.. You don't have to sleep with someone to find out. Be careful and make sure you don't regret it later. Go out and meet girls and see how it goes, Form a connection and see if you feel any desire to be with them, otherwise you are forcing yourself to try something, that might confuse you more.
     
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    I don't know if you're in college or not, but it's relatively easy to find girls you can test your sexuality out on when you're in college :lol:

    Personally, if you like cock that much you're likely homosexual. If the relationship part doesn't click right away that's pretty normal in my opinion. At the time I had my first gay experience in college I never thought I could feel romantic with a guy, but when you find the right person it will fall into place. You'll think about them for more than the sex they can offer and you'll start to become emotionally invested, then BAM a relationship with a guy doesn't seem so strange. Good luck!
     
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    Exactly right about the strangeness part. When I started being with a guy it was both thrilling and scary, both of these feelings settle down eventually, and yes, the emotional investment, although unthinkable at the beginning feels more and more right as time goes on.
     
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    People know who they are attracted to before having sex with them. If you don't know whether you are attracted to someone, having sex will not tell you. Sex can be pleasant and physically pleasurable with someone you are not attracted to, or, conversely, awful with someone you are attracted to.

    Sexual orientation is about feelings that you have all the time. It is about who you feel drawn to romantically and sexually.

    Having sex with a random girl based on the criteria that she is willing to have sex with you so that you can check to see if you are gay will not tell you anything.

    If you are exclusively gay, you will not be attracted to all men, but the people you are attracted to will be men.

    If you are exclusively straight, you will not be attracted to all women, but the people you are attracted to will be women.

    Sleeping with someone you are not attracted to will tell you nothing at all. And for most people, that will include most people of the sex they are attracted to. Most people are only attracted to a small portion of people. It really isn't something where, if you like girls, any girl will do.

    Also, there is a difference between knowing someone is "attractive," and being attracted to that person.

    The best sex you can have with someone you are attracted to is much better than the best sex you can have with someone you are not attracted to. But to make that comparison, you have to already know that you are attracted to at least one of the people. And if you know you are attracted to them, then you already know that, and you don't have to have sex in order to find out.
     
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    First of all let me say, that we can't tell you if you're gay or not. Only you can determine that, however we can give you our opinions.

    Personally I think that you are around a 4 or a 5 on the Kinsey scale, if you know what that means. It means that you are predominantly gay with a little bit biromantic to you.
     
  10. MemphisRapFan

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    I am actually about to finish university this month. I didn't really try since school the first 2 years was just an onslaught of homework until I decided to change majors. Plus I'm pretty much only into avant-garde stuff (and a cinephile) so I end up getting up getting insulted by snobs (never thought that would happen, also weird how it's usually people into popular stuff that ends up becoming snobs, but this is an entirely different topic) by my taste, or them saying that I'm either scary or a sick fuck.

    I am starting to realize how silly my 2nd post was. However I have not had any relationship/sexual experience with another person whatsoever, so my knowledge of it is pretty minimal. I guess maybe I am bisexual since I still am quite attracted to women (except for their genitals) and my crushes tend to be like 80% female 20% male. Perhaps if I am attracted to someone, I may be able to get past that?

    Obviously transsexuals seem to be my preference, I just hope that they will be more accepted by society soon. I actually did meet a trans woman a while ago and it seemed that there was a spark, but in the end her radical politics became so annoying to the point that I had to cut contacts.
     
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