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Am I bi?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by lys, Jan 3, 2020.

  1. lys

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    I’m a straight female but lately I’ve been questioning my sexuality. I’ve always found girls pretty (is that a normal thing?) I’ve fantasized about being with a woman. Lately I’ve been finding girls really attractive. The thing that puts me on the fence is that I’ll see a really attractive guy and I’ll think “I’m straight” but then I’ll see an attractive girl and I’ll think “ Are you sure you’re not bi?”. It’s a constant cycle. Reading(writing) this should make it obvious of what my answer is but every time I make up my mind about my sexuality I end up doubting my decision again. What were some things or questions that you asked yourself that helped you figure out your sexuality?
     
  2. WhisperinShadow

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    Hi :slight_smile:

    Finding girls pretty is not unusual. A lot of girls/women find others girls/women attractive but often they only admire their beauty and compare themselves to them. (clothes etc.)

    When it comes to sexual orientation you have to ask yourself if you could see yourself in a romantic or sexual relationship with another girl/woman.

    Questions you could ask yourself:

    Do I feel sexually attracted to them or even aroused if I think about getting intimate with a girl/woman?

    Do I feel the need to kiss them, holding hands with one like a couple or cuddling in a more intimate way?

    You don't have to rush into anything. Just take your time. :slight_smile:

    You don't even have to label yourself at all. I don't do that aswell because I only have been in relationships with men but the biggest crush (love) of my life has been a woman (I felt extremely romantically and sexually attracted to her but unfortunately she didn't love me back)
    So no need to rush :slight_smile: Just take your time :slight_smile:
     
  3. silverhalo

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    Hey I don't think being able to appreciate girls beauty is uncommon but I would say that most straight girls probably don't imagine themselves being romantic or sexual with another girl. It can take time to decide on matters of sexuality and there is no rush to label it. Only you can decide but I would say it sounds like you could well be bi.
     
  4. Athexant

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    I'm AFAB (assigned female at birth), so I can understand what you're going through. My straight female friends have openly admitted to finding other women pretty and attractive, so I would conclude that's a pretty normal feeling. What starts to branch away into crush territory or attraction is when you start fantasizing about women. Growing up, I always had crushes on boys, so I always knew I liked guys; however, when I was 13, I started questioning whether I liked girls as well. I had a very close friend, and I would often have dreams about kissing her. I got excited when we held hands, and eventually, we would cuddle when we got older (15-16). When I was 14, I started watching porn and found myself attracted to both the men and the women, and I thought about doing things to the women that the men were doing. That's when I ultimately concluded that I was bi. It was the idea of kissing, holding hands, cuddling, and ultimately things of a more sexual nature for both men and women.
     
  5. Dreamsexul

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    I like to keep things pretty simple.
    If you are sexually/romantically attracted both men and women, and want to make-out with them (or think about doing so), you're bisexual. Fully straight people don't find their own gender sexually attractive and most often find the idea of doing something sexual/romantic with their own gender somewhat 'icky'.