Almost sure I'm lesbian and need to come out to daughter

This is my first post
I am in my late 30s, divorced since 7 years, with one 11 years old daughter and I think I am lesbian. Here is my story.
Married my husband fully believing I was straight, although I had a girl crush back in high school. I never told anyone, and eventially I forgot about it and thought it was something everyone experience at one point or another. Looking back, signs were there...I wasn't really into dating and didn't have my first boyfriend until my early 20s, and that's when I was intimate for the first time and didn't see what the big deal was. I dated several boys after, but always became very apprehensive when it came to the kissing, touching part. I enjoyed men's company, but nothing physical. When I told my mom back then, she said that I needed to meet the right guy, and that's why I had no romantic feelings for the few guys I dated. Shortly after, I met my husband, fell in love, married and had a child. Our marriage lasted 4 years, we were somewhat happy, he wasn't very sexually active or affectionate, which worked great for me, as I kept thinking about girls more and more, every day, all days..No one in particular, just was dying to know what is like to be with a woman. This is when I got part time job and met this lesbian girl.. We became close friends, so close that my husband pretty much told me "you are in love with her, aren't you?" He encouraged me to explore those feelings, and so I did. I was highly attracted to her and she ended up being the first woman I was with.. the 'relationship' with this her didn't go anywhere, but I was grateful for the experience and loved every minute of the female-female interaction, the emotional as well as the physical connection. Based on this, I consider myself lesbian, I am beyond the being curious stage, right? I only think of women when I imagine myself in a future relationship and don't have a desire towards men at all.
Anyways, I divorced my husband and enrolled in college. Although divorced, he stayed by my side and supported me though school and raising our daughter. Now, I am independent and ready to be in a relationship. My ex- the only person that knows everything thinks that I shouldn't tell our daughter until I find a woman that is worth knowing of. I feel that I should tell her who I am now, even though I'm not in a relationship with a female yet. What do you guys think, which will be easier for her to process? My daughter is very open minded, we have a gay neighbors, that we all love and have frequent gatherings with, and we have talked to her how being gay/lesbian is totally ok. She hasn't seen me dating anyone or being affectionate with anyone at all, ever, not even with her dad.
Thank you for reading, I realize this is a long post. I am happy to be a part of such loving community.
-xo

 

Thank you everyone for the advice, I really appreciate it!
About the gay interaction my daughter has:
I don't have gay family members, but those 2 gay guys live next door and my daughter adores them. They pick her up from school from time to time due to our work schedules and such, and she calls them her uncles. She said a while ago that she feels people look weird at her and 'her uncles' when they walk away from the school. We asked if she is ok with them picking her up and she responded that she doesn't care and she is happy to have such a kind hearted people in her life. But then, not too long ago she came home sad, because a classmate of her told her they belong in hell for being gay. That person didn't want to be her friend anymore. She said that she didn't understand why someone this nice would belong in hell. So, my ex and I talked to her again.. Then after him and I talked and he said I have to be strong and prepare to deal with such things..
We decided to tell her that I will be starting to date and we will save the 'woman' part for later.. Thank you for this advice so much, my ex and I thought about it, and completely agree that this is the best thing to do. She will be ok with it, I hope. As bubbles123 said, her dad and I care deeply for each other, and this will hopefully give her the stability and strength she needs.