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Age when you lost your virginity?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by SubduedGuy, Apr 22, 2018.

  1. Nordland

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    Technically 9 when i was sexually abused (i don't feel like going into details), but otherwise 18.
     
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    Only sex I get is solo. First time for that was even late in life around 20. I had regular nocturnal emission before that so my equipment was fine. I still didn't know I was gay at that point, haha. Ridiculous...
     
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    Im 38 and still a virgin. Im still waiting for Mister right. Although I never really had a preference, I do have visions of one day finding a younger sub Asian guy in the 18-25 range(preferably early 20's).
     
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    I'm 42. I've never had a sexual experience. I've never kissed anyone passionately. I'm holing onto hope that one day I can give my future partner my heart, mind, body and soul.
     
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    16 when i slept and lost my virginity with my boyfriend for the first time (Although at the time we were going out for a year)
     
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  6. fadedstar

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    Nearly 28 and still haven't lost it. I may never lose it, I've almost stopped caring at this point.
     
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    13 with a guy and 16 with a girl
     
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    I'm 24 and still haven't.
     
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    I hope that at least this thread serves to prove that not everybody has sex when they're teenagers, and that really there is no particular time you should have had sex by, despite what you might see and hear from the media.
     
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    The studies I've read indicate that people are waiting until older ages to first have sex and that teenage sex is down overall. Despite the purported profligacy of the younger generations, they are apparently more temperate in sexual matters than previous ones.
     
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    Oh, this thread does prove that not everyone has sex for the first time as a teenager. But then, I'd already known that.

    But it is interesting, and a bit sad, that judging from my skimming just now, I'm the oldest virgin to post here... Well on my way towards going to the grave a virgin. I've joked about this, but it does seem very likely to be the end reality.
     
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    I can remember being on my old college's campus one day maybe 15 years ago, and seeing a copy of the-then current student newspaper. There was an interesting comment inside suggesting that people should not lie about having had sex. The author claimed it was too easy to tell it was a lie. Two things interest me about that now. First, it does suggest there are people who are college aged who are virgins, and secondly there is something about being a virgin that makes some people uncomfortable enough to lie. Perhaps it's shame at not being "sexually successful." Maybe in the case of a guy it's just to cultivate an image of being a "real man".
     
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    19 I lost my virginity to my girlfriend having straight sex, hopefully, one day I can have gay sex.
     
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    strangely enough, I mislead about several things. I lost my virginity to a guy when I was 13 but I never told anyone. I lost my virginity to a woman when I was 23 but I misled people that I had done it earlier. At the time I didn’t consider the gay sex as losing my virginity, so I was desperate to be with a woman. Needless to say, my first time was not exactly a lengthy affair. I think she could have breathed in it and it would have been over
     
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    There are tons of college aged virgins. So many that I walk by posters every day from my university's health and wellness center advertising a lecture series called 'my first college sexual experience' that apparently over 200 people go to every time since it's in a full lecture hall.

    The shame about being a virgin is partially the 'real man' thing from society like you mentioned and also partly biological. Since really the only biological purpose of life is to have sex and reproduce to continue the species - people who are in their reproductive prime years are made to feel bad about not having sex yet by their own mind/body as a way for their body to make them go find sex and reproduce. If it didn't feel bad they would just keep living normally, the negative feelings make them want sex more and eventually they want it so much they do whatever it takes to get it so they can stop feeling bad, which helps reproduction happen.
     
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    Of course, some people might be attending because they are thinking the college sexual experience will be different than the high school sexual experience they enjoyed for years. LOL
     
  19. fadedstar

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    It has nothing to do with shame (at least in my case.) It's overwhelmingly disappointment that I feel. Disappointment and shame aren't the same emotion. And on top of that maybe I hate and scold myself for not taking a more proactive approach during my youth when things probably would have been a lot simpler. Plus some alienation due to never having had an experience that seems like an essential part of understanding human life and relationships.
     
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    "The full deal" at 16, but oral at 12-13.