Hello, First let me say Hi as I’ve been reading on this site for a few years, prior to coming out (last year!) and now navigating a difficult situation. I befriended a teammate around 1.5 years ago. We instantly became very close, and I could tell there was sexual tension and chemistry. After I came out, she began to seek me out more and we became closer friends. She revealed to me that she was in the closet (I’m out—but still newly out), and we continued to be friends. We ended up having sex for a few months, but then we eventually stopped having sex and switched back to being close friends. She did not want to continue having sex because she said she only wants to date men. Our friendship was very intimate in terms of what we shared, and we held a deep level of vulnerability and openness with one another. I personally think we became more emotionally intimate after we stopped being physically intimate. While forming this close friendship, she did display a lot of push/pull behaviors which I always attributed to her own struggles with her sexuality. We had some conversations around all of this at first, but as time went on it became the elephant in the room. Recently, she told me that she doesn’t want to be my friend anymore as I’m pushing her into a relationship. I 100% do not think I have pressured her, and was really caught off guard by this statement. I considered her to be one of my best friends, and she was someone I fell in love with. I’m really having a hard time with all of this, but especially feel hurt because we were such good friends. It also really bothered me that it ended via text after being in each other’s lives for so long. Now she is ignoring me and it seems like she is also avoiding me (she hasn’t been to any of our off-season practices or hangs). I haven’t messaged her much, but I have reached out in a very non-pressurey way once or twice. I know that we will have to interact at some point, since we are on the same sports team (currently off-season) and I just want things to be normal. Since we are in the same team, we share lots of mutual friends, so I just want to be able to go to team picnics, etc and be normal with her. Last weekend one of our friends hosted a game night with a few of us, and she was the only person who didn’t come. From reading stories on here, I know it is similar to so many other situations that others have experienced. I guess it is reassuring to know others have went through this and just looking for general advice on how to move foreword. There is just something extremely heartbreaking about knowing the reason someone doesn’t want you in your life due to their own journey towards acceptance. It makes me feel very sad about the situation and compassionate towards her and what she is experiencing right now. But I am also hurt by the actions she has taken. Anyway, I guess I’m just looking for words of encouragement or advice on if there is anything I should do? If you found yourself in this situation (as the out or non out person), what would have helped you? If this happened to you, is there anything you would have done differently looking back at it all? Specifically, if you were the non-out person, is there anything that would have made you want to rekindle the friendship? Do you think she will avoid and ignore me forever?