Sometimes on posts people are right out mean and none supportive. When you know almost zero about a person do not judge them or tell them they are not ok or should not be this way or that. This is exactly why we are here to be supported and not bullied. THE WHOLE REASON this site is here is for a safe place to be. No matter how or who I am I do not need to be crapped on. Enough people have done that to me. TM I am who I am.