I was starting to be completely okay with people knowing i'm gay and it not being a big deal. Like people I go to school with who i'v never told I'm straight. So my plan was to just act like I had been out all along and that it was no big deal. I had been pretty obvious since the semester started and just kinda did my own thing. Then I made a new friend who happens to be a 21 year old married woman. We get along great, she's kinda nerdy, i'm kinda nerdy, we have fun and we're really comfortable around eachother. The problem is the other night we went out to a bar for a friends birthday and she got a little tipsy (don't worry all you older folk, I didnt drink this time =P) She kept saying things that lead me to believe that she was taking my being comfortable around her as me flirting with her... She ended the night saying to me, when I put my hat on to go outside, that I looked cuter without a hat. I know she thinks i'm straight because she asked me if I like tits or ass better at one point... I just answered with "I dont really care." I wish I could have said, neither I'm gay but I just tensed up and tried to avoid the question. I think it was really obvious that I didnt want to discuss it and I kept trying to change the subject. Not only is she a woman, but she's married too! So how am I supposed to deal with a married woman who clearly has a crush on me (Not just from the incidents i mentioned here but the whole night over all)? I'v never had this happen to me before... It's very strange because I dont want to loose a good friendship or something. I'v been avoiding saying anything directly about my sexuality to people in my classes at school. I want to make it not be a big deal and I want to let people know that the reason i havent told them is because I want them to know me and like me for other aspects than my sexuality.