I have identified as male (well, I fit the part mostly but have never been aggressively masculine) and been in a hetero marriage most of my adult life. I have had same sex and trans female sexual fantasies occasionally for most of that time while also being attracted to females and having ok sex life in my marriage. For a number of reasons sex in the marriage became rare over the past several years and crossdressing/gender identity and interest in sex with men have become significant matters for me. I am working with a helpful therapist and (in the last few days) started talking to my partner about these issues. It seems somehow odd to be wrestling with these things at 61. Any others have relevant experience to share?