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  1. FemmeQueen

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    Hi everyone, my friend recommended this forum to me because I've been struggling and feeling really isolated. I'm closeted because I have so much fear about how certain family members and church members will react. I told my mom and she accepts me but my grandma and dad are very homophobic and I don't know about them. My church has proven several times to be very homophobic. I want to go to pride so bad but I'm so scared I'll get caught in a picture or be seen because I don't want to chance being outed. Being queer, black, and female is so hard and I came here because queer support and empowerment very much needed in my life
     
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    Welcome im Bi also My church is also very judging and homphobic
     
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    Thanks and how do you cope/deal with it?
     
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    Welcome & their is a ton nice humans here at EC!!!
     
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    *their=there*
     
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    Thanks!
     
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    How did you know you were bi ?
     
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    How did I find out I’m bi? Well it’s taken a while for me to realize I’ve experienced feelings towards boys and girls since elementary school but I didn’t really know till January of this year. I’ve been in denial for years and I didn’t feel like dealing with not being straight. I thought, “well I like boys so I could just go with that”. That just didn’t work. My feelings kept on building up. I can’t deny that I’m attracted to females and people who are non-binary as well. I’ve finally stopped lying to myself after I fell hard for a girl this past school year. A lot of things this past year really brought my confusion to a forefront and it was plaguing me so i knew for my well being, I had to figure it out and bisexuality fits me
     
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    Thats great you discovered yourself
     
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    Yeah, I'm glad that I understand myself better. How did you know you were bi?
     
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    I knew since I was in 3rd grade just came out this year
     
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    You ever been to Pride ?
     
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    Hey welcome to EC. I'm sorry you have some homophobic areas of your life, it is such a tough thing to deal with. If you went to pride and someone saw you, do you think they would accept that you were there with a friend or not?
     
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    Hello, and welcome to EC. That really sucks that some of your family is homophobic, and that you have to deal with the worry of being caught for just being yourself. I hope you find the support and empowerment you are seeking here.
     
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    SilverHalo, I'm not sure. Sometimes I feel like I could get away with going as an "ally" since when a lot of people see me they assume I'm straight. I'm still too scared
     
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    Emmareld, Thank you!!!
     
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    Do you have any friends you could go with?
    It's tough isn't it. When you are in the closet (or certainly for me) I was convinced people could see into my mind.
     
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    Anytime :3
     
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    I do have queer friends, we don't have pride in my city so people drive to it in North Carolina. I'm still really scared I could be outed though. Maybe I can go when I'm in college in NYC since it's a big enough city.
     
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    Hope you get to go to a Pride
     
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