This is the key point, I think. When we are in the closet, we are constantly censoring how we act, what we say, and even how we think. It's...
It did for me. I was drowning in depression, and verging on suicidal. I was withdrawn and sinking fast. But after just telling one person my...
My personal view is that you have got to the heart of it here. The atmosphere sounds very toxic, and isn't healthy for either of you (or the...
Hi - I'm in a similar situation in that I'm a bi guy in a mixed gender relationship, and I also understand what you mean by needing to be your...
This may be a daft question, but if you suspect they know and you don't have problems dropping hints anyway, do you *need* to "officially" come...
This is really good advice. I found keeping a "mood diary" very helpful - simply writing down each day how I was feeling, and and thoughts that...
You are at the beginning of the journey of processing your feelings, so give yourself time. Sounds like you had a great first therapy session -...
Yes! This hits the nail right on the head. Before I came out to my wife, I was agonising over who she might tell, and who they might tell, and...
Regrets and what-ifs hit me hard when I was struggling with my identity. They were a nasty spiral of kicking myself for not doing things...
I've said I don't want to hide or lie, as that risks me hiding from myself again. But I'm also happy not to go shouting from the rooftops. Which...
Bonus thought - what I really am wanting to do is volunteer at a local LGBT support centre. My (selfish) motivation is more about stopping myself...
Yes, I'm mindful that I'm probably in the "honeymoon phase" where everything feels like a massive relief. I jumped before I was really ready as...
Agreed - things would have probably been easier if I'd been able to admit I was struggling. Although the problem was as much admitting to myself...
No. She knew I'd been seeing a therapist, but not the reason why.
Pure support. She expressed regret that I hadn't been able to confide in her and gone through the journey alone, but she also understood why I...
No big changes. The only difference is that I suddenly feel "normal" again.
Exactly. We are who we are. So we can either embrace it and let others do the same. Or we can live locked in self-hatred and misery. My worry was...
Oh, and I should add that in terms of the oppressive upbringing, I think the only problems it creates is in my own mind. It's hard to shake the...
I'm bisexual, and so far out to my wife only. How out I am to the rest of the world depends on her and how comfortable she is with the assumptions...
I don't have a lot to add to your specific situation, as I have the luxury of living hundreds of miles from my parents and siblings. It haunted me...
