@Chiroptera thanks for the response. He actually masturbates privately in the shower cubicle with the door closed but I noticed the shadows and...
Thanks for those replies. Wise words. I do wonder about the state of his relationship behaving like that in the shower. I wondered if he was...
I haven't seen him in a while but I have resolved to be more direct and ask him to go for a drink. I want to rid myself of romantic notions and...
Would it be fair to say that people that find a same sex partner after coming out do not regret their decision to come out whilst people that...
I agree with all Chip's feedback. You deserve a more loving partner. Love does not hurt. In your post you sound like a very nice man who is...
Read up on narcissistic personality disorder. Your BF raises a few red flags. He is managing down your expectations and he seems to always be...
Thanks for reply @GotABeard. I agree about misreading a situation when unrequited love is involved. It is the story of my life. I was always at...
I also worried a lot when with a woman as a gay man. The anxiety makes it worse. I remember not being able to get aroused and feeling terrible...
Can a person be happy to fool around with a guy every once and a while but not identify as gay? In a way I wish that I had opted for that way of...
The last bit sums it up. I am speculating and know he likes a bit on the side based on his behaviour but we've never discussed it. Everything is...
I'm wondering how a closeted person would cope with a same sex friend letting them know they like the. I'm thinking about my married friend who...
All my life I was emotionally shut down. I hooked up physically with men but my emotional longings were painfully nursed in private. I came...
It seems from the responses that some people are not happy concealing the essence of their sexuality and need to be true to themselves and others....
@Gayhusband thank you for your response. It sounds like you really want to be authentic and that not disclosing who you are is torturing you. Be...
I read your other posts. All indications are that he is gay (maybe bi but I feel he prefers men and is trying to work out what to do). He has...
Based on what you have written it is strange that he suggested the physical intimacy. It does sound like he was curious but now is afraid to...
If you knew in advance that you would remain single and would never have a successful relationship but short lived meaningless moments would you...
Everything you said is correct. Neither alternative brings happiness. It just brings anguish and despair. I am repeating a pattern and choosing...
Should I feel ashamed about what I did in the shower? Was it wrong to look? I'm not ashamed about being gay but I am ashamed of this aspect of...
Thanks for the replies and your candour. I wouldn't have a relationship with a married man. It wouldn't have a foundation of respect but you're...
